We've been together for 2 months now and i can't take it anymore he is very jelous and he doesn't want me talking to guys nor his friends he just wants me all to himself. and i cant go out with out anywhere without him knowing where i am. he calls me everyday to c how and what im doing. so how do i tell him that its over?
2006-10-11 11:35:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl dont break up with him he loves u so much u gonna break his heart he just cares about u and loves u and thats not wrong
2006-10-11 11:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥still luvin u♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, girl. He might be control freak but he could also be in love with you. Try to see beyond this problem. As time goes and trust develops people usually get more accommodating and less jealous. I would also have a deeper look at the person and try to see how my other basic values compare to the values of another person. I personally would go for the basic values if they match mine. My girlfriend is on a jealous side, we had quite a few fights and sour moments with her over this. Too many phone calls about nothing. I was also complained about who I see and when I see them. It was basically ungrounded! However, I saw her values close to mine and feel she will be more reliable friend and partner for me in long term. Being with someone I can trust is very important for me. Now, almost 2 years later, I can say that things are much better. It is not perfect, but I believe we are closer to the right balance. Good luck! :))
2006-10-11 18:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some advice to any one who is willing to read. It is important at the start of a relationship to be honest with the person and let them know what you feel.
I have been with someone for over a year now and from early on I had my doubts. I should have let her know then. Now things are falling apart as I expected and she will be very hurt.
Just tell him. Two months is nothing really. As far as I am concerned 6 months is when it is really considered a relationship.
2006-10-11 18:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by jeremycharles7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very controlling. That can be bad. Do you have a group of friends that will stand up for you? This can be a scary thing. You need people around you that will help you if you need it. Tell him that this is it and there can be nothing else. If he's as bad as I think he is, you can go to agencies that handle things like that. Your parents should be able to help too. Good luck to you sweetie.
2006-10-11 18:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invite him to a cafe at about 11am one morning and tell him, that, "This isn´t working. We aren´t compatable, and I am not enjoying the relationship. I don´t see a future in it because we are so different.
We don´t really like the same things and it´s better to seperate now before it becomes harder."
Don´t bother going into all the jealousy stuff as he will just try and argue that you are imagining it.
2006-10-11 18:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be up front with it. Two years ago I broke up with my fiance who was clinging and jealous. I had told him that I was no longer happy in the relationship and that I didn't want to go out any more. I wished him all the best. Make friends with yourself and know that you don't ever need to be treated in that fashion again. No person owns another - we are all free spirits with our own lives. You deserve to be happy and enjoy your life!
2006-10-11 18:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by cynnamum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes jelousy means that somebody loves you. Sometimes just that they have too many issues of their own. I would want basic honesty, basic trust and rules, then she could see whoever she wants to, as long as she was honest with me. I would do the same. Even one small breach of trust then it would be OVER. Jelosy has NO place in trusting relationship.
2006-10-11 18:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only two months, you can't be that attached already.
Just tell him it isn't working out and goodbye.
Tell him if he likes he can stop by for an exit interview so you can tell him all the things he did wrong. If you want to rub it in.
2006-10-11 18:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like you said it there. if you don't feel comfortable telling him wright it down and give it to him but stay there while he reads it. You owe it too him to be in the room with him when he reads it (unless there are extenuating circumstances like you fear for your life). But just tell him like you did there. You deserve someone better than that.
Good Luck.
2006-10-11 18:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 2 months so you sit him down and tell him this relationship isn't working and why. Be glad you're not wasting more time because his behavior will only get worse!
2006-10-11 18:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you two have a lot of differences and you think it would be better if you stop now.
And good for you not to let this go any further.
2006-10-11 18:41:39 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋