I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and and in love with him and could see myself spending the rest of my life with him. There is one issue though. He wants to switch careers to something that I really do not want him to switch to, he wants to be a cop. Now I have nothing against actually cops but it is not the life that I want for myself as a wife of what I want to raise my children in. While I know that there is always the risk that we may die tomorrow I don't think that I am cut out to worry for the rest of my life if the father of my children if going to to be gunned down at work. I don't like guns and violence either and am very against this. I have been honest with him from the beginning...that that is not the environment that I want for myself or my kids. But what do I do now? I love him so much. Do I stick to what I want for myself or so I try? I have tried to explain it by comparing it to if I was to move out of state, would he come with me just becasue he loves me?
2006-10-11 11:31:40 · 12 answers · asked by 1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should let **** farts in his face out in public!
2006-10-11 11:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by painfulmisery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A strong relationship is about compromise. I think you should sit down and have a serious conversation about it. I know you've said you have before but this time arm yourself with information. Do some research and find out how violent it really is or isn't what are the odds. Give yourself peace of mind with knowing there is a very high percentage of cops that have NEVER even pulled their gun out let alone use it. Maybe sit down with you man and make a list together of pro's and con's. Society is the one that makes being a cop seem so high risk. If you look into it there are many different risks in every job.
All I can say is that if you have or want a strong relationship working things out together is important. You don't want him to regret his decision if he decides not to become a cop because you don't like it.
2006-10-11 11:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really tough question to answer. I must be very hard for you to accept the fact that he wants to be a cop. Can you imagine how hard it must be for him as well knowing that you cannot support him. It is a really difficult question to answer but if it were me...I would say let him be a cop...if this is what he wants and would make him happy than why not? He is obviously doing it for the right reason.
2006-10-11 11:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by LES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how you feel. but if it is something he really really wants. somethign that will make him happy let him go for it. its hard to find jobs that you actually like. if you really love him you will let him do this. relationships and love are all about sacrifice. i no its hard. but heck you might in the future be like what was i worried about. i say just try it and if after a while you are still against let him know. communicate. i dont see anything wrong with him being a cop though. just as long as you two are happy together.
2006-10-11 11:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by anioheveteric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, you wouldn't really leave him over this would you? Especially not for the kids. If he's that adamant about it, maybe once he gets into it, he won't really like it. My son's father wanted to be an ultimate fighter and I hated the idea, but he tried and didn't like being truly beat up, he changed his mind. I know that it's not the same, but still, I'm sure that you'll work it out.
2006-10-11 11:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by izzyizzyemi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop it. you do not look at the negative of things, and you can't think that every cop dies. You should be positive, and supportive, I have friends on the force, and they are doing great, Lot of hours, but they are not dead, like you would think, don't think like that. If you love him, you would be their for him. That is what you have God for, you put it in God's hands. Faith is what you need.
2006-10-11 11:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you dont think you could have a life together if he becomes a cop he has a choice to make
2006-10-11 11:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the true path he wants to take, then you need to decide if it's deal breaker or not. If it is, then you need to move on. While it may seem unfair to you that he won't change his mind, it's also not fair to try to make him conform to your ideals either.
2006-10-11 11:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that u want 2 spend the rest of ya life wit him and have his childern and be like i want ya children to be abale to play father and son and or daughter games and go out with ya daughter and i want u to be able to grow old wit u and be wit u when you sick i want u to be in my life forever
2006-10-11 11:36:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can either be a cop with you, or be a cop without you.
2006-10-11 11:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by kscottbrady2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he will just be a school cop like at my middle school or a DARE officer who knows?
2006-10-11 11:34:47 · answer #11 · answered by April 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋