My fiance is American, but I am Thai. We will have an American wedding in April. In our traditional, we don't have a dance like American do for father and daughter. Even thought we are very close, but my dad and I feel uncomfortable to ballroom dance. Is it ok if we skip a dance while my fiance has a dance with his mother?
2006-10-11 11:27:57 · 25 answers · asked by ole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In an American wedding, it will be expected that you dance with your father. If that makes you uncomfortable, I would eliminate the groom dancing with his mother, as well, and simply lead off the dancing with the two of you dancing with one another, then perhaps switch to you dancing with the best man and him with the maid of honor. But having the mother-and-son dance without the father-and-daughter dance would make the omission more conspicuous.
2006-10-11 11:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family isn't much for dancing either. I didn't dance with my dad and I would have felt uncomfortable too. Actually, we didn't even have any dancing. I would have liked to, but being that his family is all in Mexico, and mine doesn't dance...we just didn't. But, I have to say, I like your idea of the man having a dance with his mother. It's unique and sweet. Make it what YOU and your fiance want it to be. Congratulations and I wish you both the best!!
2006-10-11 11:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Michali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding and you can do whatever you want. Although, the father daughter dance is very traditional in american weddings, it is your father letting you go... Its such a beautiful moment, I don't think I could ever skip it...
Good Luck and Congratulations!!
2006-10-11 11:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by angiesdabomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule about the father-daughter dancing -- just do what feels comfortable to you -- if the only special dance you want is with your new husband -- then so be it (after all, you are paying for the wedding).
2006-10-11 11:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is to be a time of JOY. If you feel uncomfortable with this dance, there is nothing written in stone that you must do this. American and Thai must make compromise. Wedding belongs to both of you.
2006-10-11 11:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Margie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all songs will be ballroom dancing if you ask the band to play something you both will be comfortable with. But if you are uncomfortable (this is YOUR wedding) I would skip it.
2006-10-11 11:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by littlegirls_2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can skip the father/daughter dance. I did at my wedding. My father and I really aren't that close anyway. It's your wedding do what YOU want!
2006-10-11 13:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by sunflower0139 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is ok. First, it is your wedding, and you can do pretty much whatever you want, and second, your guests know you are Thai, and are probably expecting some elements of the wedding to be different from traditional American ways...
2006-10-11 11:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can do whatever you want for your wedding. How about a special gift for your father in place of the dance? Write a poem for him and present it to him. Or if there is some special way to honor your father in your culture to that.
2006-10-11 15:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um,......no. She is American, you are Thai. This is tradition. Take some ballroom dance classes or fake it to you make it. Do
not do that to your bride or her father, but mostly the bride.
2006-10-11 11:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋