Ok well I'm 18. Whenever I like a guy, he is ALL I can think about. All I want to do is be around him, and sometimes I can't even sleep because I get so antsy. I mean he is absolutely ALL I can think of, nothing else. I can't function when I have a crush. Why?
2006-10-11 10:48:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell you what. To be in love (your age suits for this object, I suppose), I mean to be in love is a form of mental disease.
You should be aware of this fact. Nature WANTS it that way.
All you can do about is to be AWARE of your sickness.
Cause that's what it IS. And I know it. I could tell you stories . . .
BTW: I'm looking for a dreamgirl ! What about next saturday night?
2006-10-11 10:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Enrico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The polyamorous community calls this NRE - "New Relationship Energy". It happens every time you start up with someone new, and it's critical to realize that this rush of hormones and emotions is not real love. It's hormones and emotions, and feeling that for another person doesn't mean you've stopped loving whomever you're currently with (I know that doesn't apply to you, but it explains why the poly folks would document it thus).
It does sound like you're taking it further than you ought, though. Are you the kind to have self-image problems? You might be exhibiting the not-uncommon bad habit of making someone else responsible for your happiness - if you can get this boy to like you, then you'll be happy because you'll know you're worthwhile as a person. That's not fair to the guy, and you'd be wise to talk to a counselor (if you go to college, there's usually counselors available there) and figure out how to work through/around that.
2006-10-11 17:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nature's way of getting you to reproduce. It will go away after you're too old for nature to be interested in you. Just tough it out and try to conduct your life as if you were sane. Getting a lot of exercise helps. Having sex takes the edge off. And I've heard that getting married can cure you permanently. But neither of those is a cure you want to attempt without giving it some thought and taking appropriate precautions.
2006-10-14 02:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's how i get too, its just uncontrollable excitement. I would say its normal that is if it doesn't affect your health. Maybe you have an anxiety disorder who knows. I'm 22 and i still get that way around a certain girl. Try to keep yourself occupied for the time being, make a garden, clean your house, or paint your room. Anything to not think about that person. good luck with that.
2006-10-11 17:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's important that you recognize that you act this way. I definitely know how you feel. I think that it will go away once you settle down in life. I'm 26 and I definitely had feelings like this when I was younger. It's going to be difficult to not call this crush every 2 mins but you're going to have to make a conscious decision not to come off obsessed. Like I said....it's good that you know that you act this way. Just have fun and remember that it's great to be young and in love.
2006-10-11 17:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is all you can think about then maybe you should work on your self-esteem and maturing. Don't get so caught up in someone else; try doing something for yourself like getting a job or going to school.
2006-10-11 17:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by S&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, honey. Was almost as bad this summer, at 29 years old, but then again he's the ONE.
But I had a child at 17, and that took a lot of focus off of romance! I had to grow up and deal, you know?
Please learn to focus on yourself. If not, you will not really reach your adult years, and your life will pass you by.
2006-10-11 17:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat, somewhat
I've had this thing for my grad escort, but I know the line stops at friendship with him. Try being a friend before a "girl"friend. You'll probably get closer to him, and find out if he's really for you.
2006-10-11 17:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by ng_bigsis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called being co-dependant. You can only focus on one thing to where it drives you completely mad and insane. STOP! You are going to end up like me and worry yourself sick b/c you put so much thought and energy into your relationship. Let things happen. Don't control them. You have to learn that things happen that are out of your control and what's meant to be will be. Don't smother your b/f because he'll run away. Men don't like to be smothered!!!!! Focus your energy into other things as well. It's called putting your eggs in all baskets, not just one.
2006-10-11 17:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be one of those people that get full out lust. (since it is a chemical reaction)
Try to hang out with your friends, and keep yourself busy... I duno, when ever you're about to think about him just don't let yourself. Use all your power to just concentrate on something else. Try taking up a new hobby or something... hope this helps xp
2006-10-11 17:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Chii666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋