my whole life,,, i know im chubby but like is it all about looks
2006-10-11 10:45:59 · 23 answers · asked by rp r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am without a doubt not slim and I have no problem meeting people...hang in there....you will find the right person.
2006-10-11 10:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by me me me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be that way among the young and single, doesn't it? There are people out there who aren't just trying to find something foxy to hang off their arm. Even the chubbiest person has a companion so it's not always about looks. You maybe think that you've been single because of your chubbiness and that's probably not even the case. It's probably just how you act around the opposite sex or the way you portray yourself when they're around. Appearances change whether by chance or purposely. Our personalities are what matters most when it comes to relationships with people. Focus on that ... not your 'chubbiness.' If you can look past it ... others can too.
2006-10-11 10:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Fiusha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, i've been there, and some of the guys that liked me where attracted to my personality and my character not physically... i used to tell myself that it's not about the looks since i already had my own admirers, but something was missing u know! i mean i'm a lady and i like being told that i look nice! even those stupid comments we hear in the streets and the moles...now that i lost weight that i found a wonderful guy who thinks i'm perfect for being myself i think that life is better...he says that it's ok with him if i gained weight again, but i'm pretty sure that someday he's gonna be my husband and he has his needs as a man...so i'd make scarefices to make him happy even though he had already gave me that easy option.
Start working on urself, really! i didn't feel happy n satisfied untill i began to look normal and nice to myself at least! i know that u don't like the way u look! so ...no honest words will solve ur problem unless u decided to change not for others! but for urself! i promise that u will feel really good! and hey! i dedicate u the song Change by Tracy Chapman!
I know that my words are harsh...but it's my experience n i hope that it will give u a hint...
Best of luck :)
2006-10-11 10:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Hendrix_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not all about looks.I've been single for a long time too.I'm not chubby nor do i have the perfect body,but i think i look pretty good.I'm not sure what guys look for but i think it's a lot of different things.I wish i knew what they wanted I'm sure you'll find the right person.Do u have a good sense or humor?Are u fun, confident? You'll be ok,life is unpredictable.
2006-10-11 10:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by flexduty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Even people who are married and/or in love, eat one mouthfull at a time--by themselves.
You still have to be with yourself in the mirror and in the quiet times.
If you like yourself, and other people, you will be a magnet. People will enjoy your company and invite you aroound. You could weigh 500 lbs and be surroundd by friends, and men who see YOU as a sweet, compassionate adorable person.
If you need to lose weight for your health, then do that. Don't do it to meet Mr. RIght, because, fat or thin, Mr. Right will want you for you. Who knows he may be 500 lbs, too.
If you hate yourself, or think others are cruel and unrealistic, you will be lonesome. You will have loads of excuses why people don't like you, starting with your weight, when they really don't like YOU because you are self-absorbed, nasty or depressed all the time.
Chubby- to me that means about 20-39 pound overweight. What does it mean to you? in mostly good shape, but flabby? HUGE? you are single, and don't want to be, change the bait, honey. You can't make people like you or love you, but you can do a LOT to widen your choices.
If you are single, busy and enjoying life, then keep doing what you are doing.
Some people it IS all about looks and they are boring, shallow and even unhealthy sometimes.
2006-10-11 11:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!! Do you really think that it's all about looks??? I had a friend that was chubby had freckles from eyebrow to chin and had messy curly hair and guess what!? half the school knows him and thinks that he's cool. so it's not at all about looks. It's about personality
2006-10-11 10:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Alex P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but we all have a "looks threshold". Would you date somebody that was 1000 pounds, missing one arm, with chronic halitosis and refused to cut their toe nails? NO, you wouldn't!!! Because you have to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED to that person. SO looks DO matter to a certain extent. The fatter and uglier you are, the smaller the dating pool is going to get for you. It's nature. I suggest that you join a gym, and I bet you will meet somebody there.
2006-10-11 10:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not at all. people think just because they dont have anyone at this moment that there is something wrong with them or there is no one out there for them. thats not true maybe its not you time yet. and maybe its not the person you are suppose to be with time. give yourself time to truly know who you are so when you find that person you can truly understand who they are. be patient. there is no need to rush. dont go looking for love because believe me it will come to you when the time is right. the only way you can really be happy with someone else is to be happy by yourself. keep you head you and honestly size does not matter. its whats in you heart and mind that matters. i hope i helped and keep your head up dont worry.
2006-10-11 10:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by babyface_2400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be (all about looks)
i'm sure you'll know when the right person comes along. try to find a common interest with someone else- maybe join a rec team, or a club in your community, you'll meet new people...
2006-10-11 10:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by ng_bigsis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so.. dont worry be happy coz, some ppl likes chubby gals.. so no worries... someone will come to you soon.. People who only think about your look is not genuine..
2006-10-11 10:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by SLMAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋