ok.. my friend zoey is going out with ben. ben has cheated on her b4. so a week ago he broke up with her for becca but then he relized he didnt like becca so zoey and ben got back 2 getther but.... us, zoeys' friends, know that becca and ben are still going out behind zoeys back. their always 2gether and when they see me they act all nice but they act distant towards each other. zoey's been hurt by ben at least 3 times. he keeps deniying it but we all know its true. and zoey dosnt want to belive it! help me. what should we do?
2006-10-11 10:26:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell here the troth before she get worst
2006-10-11 10:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by louy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Zoey has been told that Ben has cheated on her and she still keeps going back to him well, there's nothing more that you can do. You have already done your part by telling her about Ben. Don't keep trying to convince her to leave Ben. She has to come to that realization all on her own. If you keep trying to convince her, she will only end up resenting you for it. Just wait it out and eventually she will get tired of being hurt and she will realize the truth about Ben. Be there for her when she does. She will nedd a shoulder to cry on....and don't say "I told you so." No one needs to hear that when they are already dealing with the knowledge that they were being played for a fool.
2006-10-11 10:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well i know how that it let her find out on her own they won't listen and just get annoyed so make sure u have a photo with Ben an Becca together so then she will believe u
2006-10-11 10:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety, you have done all you can do really. You have told her... and she doesn't want to believe it...
Even though you care for your friend and don't want her to be hurt... There is nothing more you can do.
Just be a friend to her. She is in denial... Maybe she is ok with an open relationship? Who knows what she is thinking... But maybe he's just really hot and she can't get past his looks. Maybe she is scared to be alone. That's beside the point. But you have done everything you know to do.
Your a good friend and that's what counts.
I'm sorry that you are in this position, but your friend needs to wake up.
Reality check!!!!!!!!!
I also think that you are a good friend and she is lucky to have a friend like you.
You've done all you can, now just let her figure it out for herself.
*Huggles*
♥
2006-10-11 10:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything you CAN do.
Just mention to Ben and Becca (separately) that you love Zoey and would hate to see her get hurt, again.
Other than that, just be there for her when, and if, she needs to talk.
2006-10-11 10:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Zoey has to get good and tired of this Ben clown before she will get rid of him. Many people are gluttons for punishment. Many like to be victims. Many will believe the boyfriend before they believe anyone else....
She has to get rid of him none of you can...
2006-10-11 10:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make your friend believe things she just doesn't want too. all i can tell you is if and when this ben kid hurts her again. be a friend and be there for her. that's all you can do. the sad thing is , is that you all sound young, but it sounds to me like she is falling into a pattern of wanting to be with the wrong kind of boys. love is blind! so just be there for your friend.
2006-10-11 10:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have to confront her with them...
most lovers won't believe that they are being' cheated on unless they visualize it all in front of their eyes....
denial would be the master of the game but she has to wake up as soon as possible ...ENOUGH of the shocks she had....
2006-10-11 10:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does zoey even like this guy! u should tell her to wake up because this guy could roun her emotional life!
2006-10-11 10:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what is going on w/ him and this other girl, she should already know what kind of guy he is, he'll keep on cheating as long as she takes him back, and what if he gives her an STD, tell her she is your friend.
2006-10-11 10:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋