When I was 9 years old my sister and my neice moved in with my parents because her husband died and she needed help at the time. Well, I ended up taking care of her quite a bit while my sister was at work. I used to hop in the bath tub with her and we'd take bubble baths and I would bathe her and we would have so much fun. We did that together all the time together til she and my sister finally moved out and got married again which was when she was 8, Well, I'm married now but my neice is coming to visit us for a few days and I was thinking it would be so much fun to take a bubble bath together. I told my mom this and she thinks this might not be a good idea because it might seem inappropriate now, but my husband doesn't see anything wrong with it since we are both girls. I believe it is a way girls bond.
2006-10-11 10:23:37 · 102 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes it would.....
2006-10-11 10:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
When you were 12, your niece was 4; when you were 15 your niece was 7. So from what you've written, most of the time that you and your niece enjoyed each others' company and bonded in the bubble baths, she was a relatively young child. The bond that the two of you shared, the trust, the fun, the emotion, is probably still there. From what you told us, so far you don't know how your niece wold actually feel about bubble bathing, regardless of what you think or anyone else. Would she like it now, as an 11 year old? Would it be fun? Maybe a good way to go would be to talk about it when she comes for a visit. Say, remember those great times we had in the bubble bath, something like that? Then, you can read her and see if she remembers it fondly as you do. It sounds also like you both enjoy each others' company so much; and I agree that being in and around water together is a great way to have fun and bond. Another idea might be to go to a gym together, if you belong to one. They have nice jacuzzis in many of them. Even if you're not a member, you can often call a gym and get a free trial: like at Bally's or other local gyms. That way, you two could work out or swim together, go to the jacuzzi together, talk, and it would be a bonding experience. There is nothing wrong with your idea of bubble baths, except you don't know right now what she thinks of it. Maybe she isn't comfortable at this age doing it, maybe she is. But if you want to have that special feeling of friendship, going to a gym is an alternative that is similar, if she doesn't seem receptive to the bubble bath idea.
2006-10-12 14:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little Angel, if you want to bond, and have bubbles of fun, why not get an outside pool, put the hose on full blast, some Bubbles by Avon, and run around in your bathing suits and have fun.
Taking a bath together nude, just isn't right. Privacy is key issue, boundaries, and respect. Besides is the girl crippled or disabled or can't function cleaning herself, well then that is a different issue altogether, but I still would NOT jump nude in the bath together.
2006-10-11 11:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that it would be a good idea. Even though you might not mean anything by it and you use to do it when you were younger, at those ages there is a fine line. One you are now an adult and she is still a minor, family or not. Not saying that anything would conspire from the event, but it is better to not put yourself in that situation in the first place. Even if nothing did happen and she one day said that it did, it just puts you in a bad spot. But to each their own. Take the safe route, take a bubble bath with you husband. I am sure that he would enjoy it,lol.
2006-10-11 10:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by jedi_ypr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. My recommendation? Bring up your happy memories of taking bubble baths when you were both little, and see what your niece says. Eleven is getting to the age where she's more concerned about privacy, even with other girls and even with relatives she had previously been used to bathing with.
So you really need to see what she's up for, because it may be too weird for her to have a bubble bath with her 19-year-old aunt, now that she's bigger.
Where I'm coming from with this: my son turns ten in two weeks, and right now, when we watch scary movies, he still likes to snuggle up next to me on the couch under a quilt. By the time he's fourteen, snuggling with Dad will be weird... so some time between now and then, we'll have our last snuggle. And that's sad... but it means he's growing up, and that's why we have kids.
2006-10-11 10:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Your niece is the same person, you're the same person, and the memories are wonderful.
Still, time changes little girls into pre-teens, and this is already past the age for setting one's boundaries and developing one's private identity.
I was an only child and was raised so conservatively that I am a prude. Not may be perceived as one, I am. Still, as long a your niece can function in the bath on her own (and it might be hard not to make up excuses as to why she can't, that's understnadable), there is no reason to join her and every reason to establish her privacy.
Hopefully, you will all enjoy your visit in many other ways!
2006-10-11 10:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are the same blood and it's not like you have never seen each other naked before. But, she might not be comfortable with it now that she is 11 years old. Girls kinda start growing at that age. You should make sure first.
OR! You can both wear bathing suits! Thats fun!
2006-10-11 10:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. It is a nice thought and your heart is in the right place. But I am afraid 11 years old is too old for this. Find some other way to have fun with her that does not involve nudity.
A hot tub, with bathing suits would be fine. Try that instead.
2006-10-11 10:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is very inappropriate. Because you are now a woman, and she is still a little girl. You need to let her grow with out wondering, why does my aunt have hair in places i do not etc... Find other ways to bond other than taking baths together.
2006-10-12 09:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by marcie21210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I still sit on the bathroom floor & talk with my mom while she takes her baths. (I am 26, married with a kid) but I am not in the bath with her.
I think you should pop out your bathing suits & have a hella of a good time. But she is becoming a young lady & needs to learn bounderies. As even thou you both may be comfortable, it's not appropriate. Nothing wrong if you have to go pee while she in there, or vice versa. you got the same stuff nothing to hide. just don't wanna go past the limit of what really is ok!. I hope that helps
2006-10-11 11:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by bubbagaloosch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that because you are older now - it's going to be inappropriate. Perhaps instead of doing a bubble bath together you could go get a manicure/pedicure together. You're both old enough to be able to enjoy that.
2006-10-11 14:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Amy Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋