I have known this girl for almost three and a half years. We are pretty good freinds right now. I really like and care for her, but she still talks to her ex-boyfriend. She says that they are just friends but I don't know if i believe that. Should I take a chance to be with her or should I not even try at all? She seems to show the signs that she likes me... but again I am not really that sure. Should we just stay friends or should I take the next step?
Thanks for your help.
2006-10-11 10:06:37 · 13 answers · asked by goofyg7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take the chance! I mean, I still talk to my ex-boyfriend, and we really are just friends! If she's showing signs that she likes you, just take the chance! A few of my guy friends have asked me out, and I politely said no, and we're still great friends!
2006-10-11 10:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Spritey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a crush on my best friend, who I'd known for 8 years. I'd liked him from the beginning, but dated in and out with him on my mind. This last winter I finally started to make it more clear to him that maybe I wanted to try something more...(and dropping hints wasn't working because he wasn't picking up on any of them) we did start dating, but after 3 months we realized that it didn't work out...and we're still very good friends. I'm glad we did it because I would have gone on wondering for the rest of my life what could have been.
Don't do that to yourself. If you think she may be interested, take some intiative. If you're good friends with her, then hopefully you can both be civil enough to remain friends on the chance that it doesn't work out. Just make sure this is what you really want.
Good luck.
2006-10-11 17:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends with her until u know for sure she wants to be with u. U never want to lose a good friend, so at least be her friend for now. Remember u deserve a good girl too, so if she cannot see that, then there is always someone better. Whatever u do, don't lose that friendship. Trust me if she wants to be with u, u will know it. Things will start happening a little different. She will want to be around u more than normal. things like that
2006-10-11 17:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Eric MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off if yall didnt work out as a couple could yall still be friends or would it be weird and then yall just drift apeat and if you do drift apart can you take loosing her as a friend?
and also just because she still talks to her x and if she hung out with him that wouldnt be wrong i mean if yall dated and the broke up are you saying that yall couldnt talk no more after that?
2006-10-11 17:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her. If she is showing signs, well that pretty much doesn't mean a thing cuz some girls show signs on purpose while others do it by accidet. I would say just take a deep breath and plung right in and tell her. If you have trouble, leave her a note btu the best way is to talk to her. Talking over the phoe is onkay if you are nervous. If you get her voice mail, DO NOT hang up! Just leave a message like thsi is ________ just calling to say I like you then hang up. [auwww!] ahem ahem
2006-10-11 17:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you have been friends with her long enough to have some kind of clue about how this girl is... are they REALLY just friends, is she honest with decent morals, or does just friends mean that she is there for him to cuddle with anytime he is lonely and she is waiting in the wings for him? Do you see her handle her other relationships in a shady way? Do you still need more time to get to know her even better before you make this decision?
2006-10-11 17:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me if ya'll are friends leave it that way..my best friend for 15yrs (which we were in love with each other the whole time) we hooked up about a year ago and now are not together anymore..i am so heart broken i don't think i could be friends with him ever..so if you are okay with maybe losing a friendship go for it. its a dangerous field
2006-10-11 17:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by sherry p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough, cause if you got together now would it be rebound on her part??? i dont like to be negative but i would leave this one alone, sorry... i've done that and it changes everything, especially if you all have mutual friends and do things together as a group,,, nah, i would stay away .. good luck!
2006-10-11 17:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by blahblahblah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends are you willing to lose your best friend if your relationship doesnt work out? do what your heart tells you to do. and just because she talks to her ex does notmean any thing it just means that she just wants to be friends.
2006-10-11 17:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by howdy19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out ask her, tell her what you are feeling. Then, go off of her response. You'll know what to do
2006-10-11 17:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋