At the last dance of homecoming last week, i asked this new girl to dance so that i would not be odd man out. She said yes and we danced. I really enjoyed the dance and really like her. the problem is, we dont really know each other. She is only one class with me in which minimum talking is permitted. I would really like to get to know her better and possibly go out with her, but i have no idea on how she feels about the dance. I dont want to go up to her and come on too strong, but then again, i dont want her to slip away. What and how do i find out how she feels without coming on too strong or making myself look like a fool? I need to do this soon before she totally forgets about the dance
2006-10-11 10:05:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way
the problem is not what to say or how to say it(although suggestions for that are also welcome)
but when to say it
we have no chance to talk and the passing of notes is forbidden
2006-10-11 10:14:24 · update #1
and i dunno how it is at other schools
but sometimes, dancing means a lot to two people
sometimes, it means nothing
i am not sure which one this is
2006-10-11 10:16:40 · update #2
Slip her your phone number...if she calls, she's interested. Or, if you think she might be too shy to call you, just ask for hers. Let her know you are interested in hanging out only as friends, nothing more for now. That way you won't come on too strong. I'll bet she'll say yes....she said yes to the dance didn't she??
2006-10-11 10:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by fatt_bottom_girl2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're at a homecoming dance, I'm assuming you're at least high-school aged. Is there no way you could ask her out for dinner someplace casual? Just slip her a note before class saying that you enjoyed the time you had together at homecoming, and that you would like to get to know her better, and would she like to join you at
If you're worried about coming on too strong, then make it a group affair. Get a bunch of your pals together for dinner and invite her along - especially since she is the new girl and probably doesn't know anybody very well yet.
2006-10-11 10:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a girls point of view some girls like big tough guys who come on strong some don't if she's a soft girl then you might want to take it step by step-ask her to the movies with some friends but dont act like a jerk. then you could probably go to the movies.... u know get her into the feeling. You probably would want to tell her how u feel about her first . If she looks like that kind of gir who likes big tough guys Ask her out and then go on from there...
2006-10-11 10:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Depressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out. She obviously already likes you because she went to homecoming with you. Next step: Spend time with her outside of class or at least talk before and after class. If you like to read lend her a book, or vise versa ask if she has a good book you couls borrow. Or if you both are outdoor type people, take your dogs (or younger siblings) to the park. the key here is to spend time together
2006-10-11 10:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Melvina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send a flower. It's nice and not to pushy and add a quick note that says she made the dance worthwhile and "Thanks"
If she's interested, she'll respond.
Every girl loves to be noticed...and if she doesn't respond, there's no harm done...but I guarantee she WILL keep that note!
2006-10-11 10:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well start off writing her notes
ask her how she like the dance
and telll her that u had fun dancin wit her, u dont have to get in detail just say u really had fun with her, and tell her that she looked pretty that night, sayin that is not too much
2006-10-11 10:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that friendship comes before a good relationship...start there. Don't think of it necessarily in terms of doing this only because you want to date her, but do it because you want to be her friend...and then see how things progress...that way you take pressure off of yourselves and will get to know eachother better.
2006-10-11 10:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up 2 her and tell her:
hey i really liked dancin w/ u and i wanna no may b would u like 2 go out sometime?
its that simple man dont complicate it
(ps: dont listen 2 every1 tellin u 2b her friend 1st i tried that then they get real weirded out bout it)
2006-10-11 10:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, you got nothing to lose except a possible new girl friend. Go for it!
2006-10-11 10:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm..if i were you, i would talk to her and get comfertable being her friend first, you could say hi in the hall of ask her questions. then, if things work out, go ahead and ask her out!
2006-10-11 10:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by livingthesweetlife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋