I want to show him that I'm open to different things, but I don't wanna make it seem like I've been putting on a front all along by being "good" in the bedroom. I am 21 and he's only the 3rd guy. He has way more experience I know he's used to more "range" when it comes to sex. What should I do to spice things up?
2006-10-11 10:00:07 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Going from tame to freak usually takes experience and total comfort on your part. The more comfortable you are with sex and with your body the freakier you will become. Why not ask him to show you a few things ? That's how you learn.
2006-10-11 10:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My favorite subject!! Just go with it. In the heat of a moment, nobody asks why. We're all "good" in the bedroom for a while and then we get comfortable with our partner. If he questions you about why you're doing something just tell him that you now feel more comfortable. For info about how to spice things up hit me up on my messy id and i'll give you a few ideas. I wouldn't want to answer that here. May offend people.
2006-10-11 10:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are all cuddled up AFTER sex, ask him, if there is anything he would like to do that you and he aren't doing. If he says yes, then ask him how to do it.--even if you know how. You are not lying--you don't know how HE likes it, do you?
You can catch on quick or not...
Then tell him there is something he can do to please you and let's try this--you read it is COSMO or somewhere, right?
PS read books about it for ideas.
NEVER ever give details of how and who and when you learned how to do something in bed. It will eventually bite you, I promise!!
If he wants to do something you don't like or don't think you'll like, tell him to be patient with you and you will try to meet him half-way--if you can. If you can't --say that! Don't be a tease.
The hottest thing you can do is to ENJOY what he is doing. Make a little noise, move, help, and egg him on. They all love
that!
Passion develops over time as you get more and more comfortable with a person. If you LOVE him, it will get terrific.
If it is just sex, there is only so much you can do before you are bored to death.
2006-10-11 10:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first let him know that you are open to doing more things with him sexually, physically. involve him. tell him what you like and what you want him to do. vocal is just as good if not better than physical. touch you here, there, everywhere........
then, i would suggest that you read some really good soft-p books. nothing debasing or nasty but suggestive. incorporate that into your life. you would be surprised how hot some of those books are.
take him out of the element and surprise the hockey sticks out of him. dont limit it to the bedroom. take him in public, secretly where only you know whats going on. trust he will enjoy that very much.
step out of yourself just a bit and see how he responds. the key is to not do it all the time just wow and bedazzle him and he will not forget that. he will appreciate it, trust.
2006-10-11 10:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by edcltu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about a bedroom toy. here's one for you. check the link below. plz dont be shy, me and my guy use toys and it makes things really fun. at first it's weird cuz you dont really know what to do but after a few times, it ends up being playful and fun.
Get him to use the vibrator on you. the curve hits the gspot and is good for playing with, trust me you'll love it! i have the same one and i got it from there.
Try getting some handcuffs too. that can be fun tie each other up and lick his nipples cuz men are REALLY sensitive on the nipples!! he'll remember you forever if you suck his nipples!
2006-10-11 10:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dannigrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah the age of serial relationships.... well, when next he enters your boudoir look at him with batting eyelashes holding a dvd of Ron Popeil informercials and a cattle prod... then command him to jump into the pouch of the kangaroo suit you are wearing.... what red-blooded mammalian would not be gracious for being offered such tempting availability.
2006-10-11 10:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he likes... tell him to make a list.. or you can get online and look up things together that turn you on, the more he's turned on the more he'll open up about the things he likes...You can just tell him that you think that "whatever your talking about or looking at" could be fun. He'll more than likely go for it and you'll have a kinky sex life in no time.
2006-10-11 10:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to wikipedia.com. You can find all kinds of ideas there. Your b/f will probably be more than willing to experiment. Trust me, your willingness to please & learn will more than make up for any lack of experience.
Personal note. I once had someone tell me I needed to practice performing oral sex. So, I found some videos & paid attention. The next time (about 6 weeks later) I was able to blow their mind. And KNEW it.
2006-10-11 10:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by laneydoll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know he might just like you the way you are. No man wants to think he's with a woman that has been around and around the block. How long have you been dating? Give it some more time.
2006-10-11 10:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by ?? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch a XXX movie then act out what you just saw. Ask him what parts you should do to him.
Tell him what you saw that he should do to you.
Remember if you want to set him on fire, the hot spot on a guy, when doing oral, is sucking on the spot just between his balls and anus. That will drive him out of his mind.
2006-10-11 10:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋