does long distance ever work out?

Question

I was in a long distance relationship for a while. But from the beginning we said that neither of us believed in it. It has gone on for over a year now. Each time we leave each other we "break up" this time Ive decided to cut all ties.

We were friends first and that was great. This is why cutting ties was so difficult.

Answer 1

I've been with my man for almost three and a half years and for the past three years we've been miles apart. It hasn't been easy and even now we have our problems. However, in the start of our relationship, my man's friend said the most important thing to us. He told us to 'make memories' and that's the most important advice ever. Because since we've been apart we've had the most difficult times but we always have a foundation in the form of our memories and we know if we could become so close in the time we shared then we've got so much to look forward to when we finally get to be in the same place. We're so strong now and we talk on the phone and chat online and I still feel the excitement I did when we first met. There'll be good times and awful times when you'll wish you never met him, there'll be jealousy and arguments coz you'll miss each other so much. But at the end of the day if you've got those memories you can always touch base and recollect and you'll make it. We told ourselves that people always say long distance does not work and we made it our mission to make it work. We've set ourselves targets all through the way and we celebrate our "anniversary" every month on the day we met, e.g if you met on the 8th then every 8th of every month can be your "anniversary". Take each day as it comes and make a conscious decision not to argue and to make it work and it will.

So my answer is, YES long distance works but only if you try.

Answer 2

Long distance ended up working out for me, but that doesn't mean I recommend it for everybody. Most assuredly, if you go more than six months or a year without ever making plans to meet in person, things are not likely to work out. There are many interpersonal connections that simply cannot be made at long range. (It's also tricky to maintain them at long range - in fact, I'm not actually sure if mine counts as a LDR because I moved to be with him after 18 months, when that college semester ended).

The thing that worries me most about long-distance relationships, especially all these online relationships that teenagers are getting into, is that the people in those relationships are gypping themselves out of chances at in-person relationships. I don't for a moment believe that there is only One True Love for anybody (and it bugs me when my husband calls me that) - I believe there are plenty of people with whom we can happily have prolonged relationships. So I worry that people in their online relationships are missing out on something much closer and much easier to maintain. (And yes, I play the what-if game with my own life, too.)

Answer 3

I'm in the same situation... after 4 years he decided distance was too much and ended it .I'm trying to cut all ties but omg it hurts SO much.
hope everything works out for you in the future

Answer 4

I think it depends on the couple and what goals they are persuing while they are away from each other. Love is not measured in miles. If you really love someone you will still love them regardless of how far they are away from you. It takes patience and time to work through long distance relationships but i think they can work if you really both mutualy want them to.

Answer 5

you know sometimes it can work depending on if you have a goal at the end of it. For example your both away at diff unis but your movin in together once you've got your degree's. If howeva you have no goal then there really isn't a point to the relationship causeyou know there never going to be a long term comitment at the end of it.

Answer 6

Been there, seen it, done it, worked out just fine after a 2 year 440 mile relationship. That was 10 years ago, still going strong

Answer 7

I am Jeff from NYC, my fiance is 36 and lives in Toronto. We have dated now for a year. Our relationship works out fine. In order for it to work, we MUST trust each other and remain in love with each other. We talk several times each day. We are now getting married in 2007. If you want it to work out it will.

Answer 8

I fell in love with a man.

His friends warned me that he was a 'player' and would never commit.
My friends told me that I was wasting my time.

We lived about 120 miles apart and I was skint - I could only get to see him once a month.

After a year I moved to his home town and he freaked. We split up.

Now almost 8 years later we're planning our handfasting (pagan wedding) and are very happy together.

Answer 9

my uncle works away 95% of the year, and there relationship is stronger than ever and they have been together for over 30 years, so yes they can work.

Answer 10

Long distance relationships are pointless......think about it. Being in a relationship is being in each others company, going out, laughing, making love, helping each other etc. What you have is a penpal and a phone buddie.......cannot believe that you did this meaningless thing for a year!!! DUH!!!