does long distance ever work out?

Answer 1

Hi, Peanut,
"Long distance relationships", just like any other relationships, take love, time and effort.... People who always say that long distance relationship doesn't work, it's only because they are too afraid to try it or perhaps never truly fallen in love with anyone that's not within their area....
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Yes, it's true that long distance is geographically undesirable, but if the love shared between two people is genuine, then anything is possible..... Love should not be measured based on distance, background, religion or whatever...all it matters is how you feel for the other person... Of course, there is a downside to it that you don't get to do things with the other person.... However, technology is so great nowadays that there's the telephone, there's webcam, and there's the airplane that takes you to your love anytime you want. I don't think when people ask about long distance relationships that they plan to stay that way forever...but nobody says that the distance will keep you from learning more about the other person, become better friends, then lovers...then if your life permits or you're really in love then you will find a way to be closer to each other.... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."...
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The biggest issue with : "long distance relationship", is trust...because quite frankly, you won't know if the other person is cheating on you or not... However, if you don't trust the other person, why be in a relationship at all?... And if he cheats when he's far away from you, what makes you think he won't cheat when he's close to you?...
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There are some couples, who live in the same city as each other but rarely ever see each other at all.... It's hard, but it doesn't mean it can't work... Not a lot of people will be able to handle this pressure, but those who do and still find love despite the distance, then their reward is a lifetime of happiness and true love.... One of the most common sayings is that "love has to withstand the test of time and distance"....You have to ask yourself the question : can this person love you 10 years from now, when you're not as young and pretty?.. Or can this person still love you when you're thousands of miles apart and yet he still remain faithful?... If you answer yes to these questions, congratulations you are very blessed....
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But, if you answer no to any one of them, then you haven't found true love... To me, people who are in a long distance relationship gets their test of love early in their relationship, and those that have a short distance relationship will get their test in the future...for instance, might be one day after the couple get married and the husband has to go to war...
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How to make it work?... Trust and communication! ..When two people connect on the highest level, nothing can keep them away from each other... So, is it that long distance relationships don't work.. or is it simply because : the love isn't there?
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I wish you a lot of luck/love.. with this person!!;D
Make the best of it.. and you will suceed!!
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Thanks, for the question!;)

My regards!

Answer 2

I'd say rarely, I just got out of one. She lived in Canada and I'm on Long Island, NY. There are many factors that goes into these relationships. A major one is how long were you together before you had to separate and how strong was that bond cause if it wasn't like cement then other people can that pass in and out of your lives can break down that bond. Another thing I believe is important is touch something that simple means SOOO... much the simple act of touching re-enforces a relationship and when that is missing then your not left with much besides a memory or a thought. But if you want it to work it most defiantly has to be mutual and communication is KEY! I can't stress that enough. It doesn't even have to be on the phone simple text messaging will do just so long as you have some sort of communication everyday. Understand that you both have separate lives so you can't stress little things. One thing I have to warn you of is that those little gears in your head there going to start spinning so try not to over analyze thing like "what were you doing last night?" "Who did you go out to dinner with?" One other major thing to consider is that if you both have no intention of ever being together in the same place place don't try this cause you'll be wasting both of your time.
I realy hope I helped you out.

P.S. My long distance relationship didn't work it only lasted 4 months.

Answer 3

Yes, I know two or three people who met online and subsequently married. Take care and be realistic and level headed about each other's needs.

Of course, there are many, many relationships which either peter out or fall apart once the couple have met. LDRs are DIFFICULT! Not only do you get to know someone in a 'different order' from the way in which one meets someone face-to-face, which tends to make the intensity of feelings follow an abnormal pattern, but one does not realise that, however much one has talked online or even on the phone, the information one bases one's feelings on is considerably less than one realises and trust and mutual honesty are more important even than they are in a local relationship.

The situation is a lot different if a near reationship turns into a long distance one. The tendency is to focus on how much you miss each other, which is a negative thing. To make it work, you have to concentrate on positives and support each others' occasional weakness and downheartedness. Trust, openness, hope and real love should already be the norm for the relationship.

There are a number of support groups for LDRs. The better ones have a lot of information about pitfalls and 'red flags' to watch out for.

Answer 4

ouch that's a tough one it depends on how often you see each other,how long the relationship went on before it became long distance and how compatible you both are. The level of intimacy you have already and your depth of commitment for each other will determine that .Just make sure when you have separated for a while you use protection incase your partner went way word !keep your friends close to you and stay social so if it doesn't work out you aren't left in the cold, also con cider long distance relationships take a toll on your pocket book the flights and or car trips with the phone bills can get well pricey . make sure its worth your waiting time energy and money.

Answer 5

Worked for me and my bloke. We spent over 2 years with 500 miles between us and used to meet about once a month. It wasn't easy, but we were so in love that there really was no alternative. Also neither of us is the jealous type, which helps.

Answer 6

Yes it does, 5 years experience and long distance relationship with my guy. Strong love.

Answer 7

only if you have complete trust for each other. most time long distance doesn't work out to well.

Answer 8

I don't think it does. The relationship always focuses on how much you miss each other instead of being about how well you actually get on with each other. It's difficult enough when you live round the corner from each other.

Answer 9

Done both long distance and short and both have failed...so who knows?

Answer 10

sorry to say but i would say no, even if u two like each other a lot and would do anything for each other, u are going to have problems. first u will meet cute guys, or he will meet hot girls, even if he doesnt flirt with them, they will flirt with him. maybe it will work out but not likely. Good Luck!