I have a boyfriend who was locked up so he hasnt really had a serious relationship until me we've only been dating for a short time but we reall wanna be with each other for as long as we can make it last but i need advice on how to help him open up more he gets confused sumtimes about how to approach me because he never felt this way for any1 b4 so he doesnt know how to handle it whats the best way to get him used to it and to not feel confused. he loves me but said he's never loved like this b4 and it scares him
2006-10-11 09:46:36 · 7 answers · asked by I love my boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I have been trying for that long to get my boyfriend to open up and share his feelings. It is not an easy task. What I have learned in my opinion is that you can't help them open or make them. Its all in him. He loves you and I believe love will make things last. When he feels like he is ready to share he will. He may not share all of what you are looking for, but that will come in time. My boyfriend has shared alot with me over the years, but there is still stuff I don't know. The more I don't push him to talk, he tends to come to me more and open up. It will come in time. Guys aren't like girls. We will tell our feelings to almost anyone who will listen. Guys don't do that. They feel if they talk about there feelings they won't feel as masculine.
2006-10-11 10:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really truly loves you like he says he does, then he shouldn't be too scared to at least be honest with you! Before you put your hole heart on the line, you should make sure he is doing the same! Just because he hasn't done this or felt this way before doesn't mean anything! The fact that you said "we want to be with each other as long as we can" confuses me. What do you mean as long as you can?
2006-10-11 16:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by pretty lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with him. You can't force someone to be open to you, it comes over time. Let him know that you'll be there for him, no matter what, and that you won't judge him for whatever it is he says. Trust is EARNED not just haphazardly handed out. It takes time.
And, BTW, not to completely burst your bubble, but love and trust go hand in hand. You cannot love someone you don't trust... but again, they both take time and have to be earned. Neither should be given lightly or it isn't worth it. GL to you.
2006-10-11 16:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that he has to work out for himself. Don't push him or you'll scare him away. Just let things be and give him room.
2006-10-11 16:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Locked up ? You sure you want this guy to start your life with ? Good Luck ! :)
2006-10-11 16:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he never felt this before...he was locked up!!!! he also does not know what freedom is!!! leave him alone.... he needs to explore his new world!!! trust me once he discovers there is more than you then he will dump you for someone else.
2006-10-11 16:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by ARELY G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just act like yourself around him at ALL times.
GooD LucK
2006-10-11 16:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋