my sister was killed in a car accident last nov. and left behind her 12 year old daughter the family pulled together and tried to do what we thought would be best for her and also what my sister would have wanted. her father was never in her life and her stepfather of 2 years said he could not raise her.on Nov 9 2005 my niece lost everything, her dad,her school, her friends, her dog, her bedroom, her home, and her mommy! my younger sister is a 5th grade teacher, and so as a family we thought this maybe the best home for her, even though her own children are grown and do not live at home anymore. my sister and her husband knew it wouldnt be easy but that they would try their best. now almost a year later they dont think their best is working. and have no idea where to go from here. looking for much needed help in tucson! i know this will take time, and for my neice it will take a lifetime.
2006-10-11 09:46:15 · 4 answers · asked by BEC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sound incredibly caring, can't you take her and raise her, obviously you loved your sister, now you get the chance to love and raise her daughter. the girl must be devastated, she needs to know she is wanted for ever - her mum dies ,her step dad rejects her, her heart must be broken to the core.now her aunt and uncle can't cope, she is going to be devastated forever if she doesn't get scoped up into someones loving arms quickly. remember 1 year is an eternity without your mum, yet only a small time in the pattern of her life, with love and care from her family, in 6 yrs she will be a well adjusted, young women ,heading down the path to the rest of her life and she will be eternally grateful to you all forever. i wish you all well in this difficult time. my prayers are for you all.
2006-10-11 20:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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1) Dare to discipline
If her dad was not involved and the stepfather said what he did, then she is probably in strong need of discipline
I hope you are married to a decent guy, as she needs a GOOD male role model in her life. one that will not abuse her and not take advantage when she sees he cares for her.
2) The strong willed child
BTW, back slap step dad for me
2006-10-11 09:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Greg J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that poor girl! I would look at the whole family... who has children in that age range? Who else is close to your departed sisters age? The girl is alone in the world and pushing back let alone she is getting ready to become a teenager.... a teen that has no mom that she can ask questions to... the whole family again needs to pitch in... take her to the movies all of you should do stuff with her and let her know how loved and special she is.
2006-10-11 09:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a good aunt! she has been through alot and you guys r just passing her around. keep her in one place and let her adapt to it. BEST OF LUCK!!!!
2006-10-11 09:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥la chica♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋