I recently started college. One of the guys that is in my religious group has taken to always talking to me when we are at church or activities and even invites himself over all the time. It's to the point where I try to stay away from my room so that I won't have to see him. There is nothin truly wrong with him other than that he is suffocating me. I'm just not attracted to him and he is not picking up on the hints I give him. I just got a note from him on facebook and I'm 95% sure that it implies that he's asking me to homecoming. I don't have a date, but I really don't want to go with him. I don't know what to do... I want him to not just think I'm busy or have another date, but that I'm not interested in him. Period. At the same time, I don't have any reason to be "mean" or anything... I just want to be left alone. I mean, he gave me a CD he made of him playing the piano... It's just getting too uncomfortable. Please help me out right now, 'cause I need to answer him soon!
2006-10-11 09:43:51 · 15 answers · asked by ~Love~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just straight up tell him you dont have feelings for him. Guys do not get hints when they like you..it sucks but you just have to suck it up, be a man, rub some dirt in it(sorry thats my new thing)..just tell him and get it over with
2006-10-11 09:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Laurel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a guy, I can say that often we don't get "hints" that a girl isn't interested in us romantically.
Sometimes you simply have to spell it out. It is impossible for you to get him to understand it without hurting his feelings. It's obvious that he thinks he has a shot at developing a closer relationship with you.
It would be easier for both of you if you put an end to it before he strings himself along, making it worse.
Tell him that you aren't ready for a serious relationship. You just started school and you need to concentrate on school. You don't mind being friends (if that's true) but you need your space right. It's nothing against him, you simply think that you have higher priorities right now than being in a relationship.
2006-10-11 09:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by DragonOpinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-11 09:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you can't go with him to the dance because you have other plans. If you end up going with someone else or by yourself, that is your other plan. You are not obligated to tell him what your other plan is. As for t he other... problem just tell him that you need some space up front that you are feeling crowded by his attention. There is nothing like the truth.
2006-10-11 09:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you don't like him in that way. You don't want to lead him on by not saying anything. So just say that you need your space and you don't like him in a boyfriend kind of way and you want him to give you space. There is no easy way to do it so just go for it.
2006-10-11 09:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by bandfreak_06_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that you need to talk to him. Sit him down and explain to him that you are not into him as a boyfriend but as a FRIEND. And that you are not trying to hurt his feeling but you are trying to be honest with him. I hope things go smoothly for you
2006-10-11 09:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For such situation, you need to be straight forward. Tell him in the face that you are not comfortable with what he is doing for you and you want to make it clear to him that you are not interested in a relationship with him.
2006-10-11 20:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, just tell him :
you are not my type, I am not ready to go into a relationship now, we can be just friends, kindly give me some space of my own, stop calling me.
2006-10-11 15:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have to tell him straight in the face that you don't like him and asked him not to harass you. he should be able to understand what you mean after you have tell him about this and should give up on you.
2006-10-12 15:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and say it to him. the truth is usually the best way to go. Be nice but tell him sorry you don't feel that way about him and never will.
2006-10-11 09:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Adam B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋