Father going in room while at school?

Question

Earlier i posted a question about parents getting divorced, i hope they do. I feel like killing myself because of my dad. He is always going in my room when i am in school and when i ask him why, he makes up really really bad excuses, today after coming home, i asked and he like always wanted to hit me with the belt just for asking and he said, " what, can't i go into your room" he's always doing this to me, he's always following me he wont let me ever go out with friends , he's always making me go with him he goes in my room and talks to me like i am an animal. He is very violant and i m tired of him going in my room everyday and getting away with it. Everytime i suggest an idea or something or dont talk back, he gets violant and says " you dont ****** tell me what to do" he makes me get on my knees and say what ever he wants to hear. He lets my little sister in my room and she makes a huge mess , then he makes ME clean it up and curses at me. i cant stand it someone please please

help ;-( what can i do i want to be free from this man and his violence

i know but i'm not brave enough to stand up for him, and if i call the police my mother will hate me and wont speak to me

thats the thing, i am a straight A student that has NEVER gotten introuble. I want to take an after school program but he WONT let me. He starts arguing! he wont leave me alone! please just someone help me i want this to stop, i know it's ok for parents to go in their youngsters rooms, but not daily! and i dont have anything to hide thats the thing, thats why it bothers me and i want it to stop!!!!!!!!!!!!please help i am tramatized i hear his voice everywhere i go! i hear him when i m sleeping even though he's at work, i hear him @ school , in my music! please some one take him away

Answer 1

Is there something missing from your story? You are scared of your dad because he yells? Has he hit you or anything? You don't like him coming into your room. There isn't anything that you can do about that. I mean he will say it's his house. If you have nothing to hide then just get used to it. There is nothing that can be done till you turn of age. Start working save up so when you turn 18 you can leave. I felt just like you when I lived with my dad. He would make me get on my knees and clean the floor with a toothbrush because I dropped some crumbs. He was mad because my step mom had just cleaned it up. I felt just like you, I talked to my mom. They were divorced. So I just continued to go through the bs and I finally moved out to stay with my mom, then she got sick where she could take me back and forth to school. Things will work out somehow. Just have some faith. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 2

WOW!! This is not good... I don't have enough information to really say exactly what to do. YOU need to talk to an adult YOU trust. Like your mom or grandmother if not any smart adult you feel safe with. It should be OK for your dad to go in your room are you hiding something? If not don't make a big deal about it and it won't be a big deal to him any more either and he will stop. However it is OK for your younger siblings to respect your privacy and they should play in their own rooms, dad should support this! Sounds like Dad is misplacing his anger on you try to do good in school and stay out of trouble. Take up an after-school activity ..... just make sure you chores are done and your family knows where you are. Hopefully your dad will get through whatever is hurting him....he does not seem to be a happy camper.... Now go talk to someone!

Answer 3

This guy has some problems. Is your mother in the picture? Can she intervene for you??

If not, then you should consider discussing this with a counselor or some other trained professional. It sounds like he has major control and rage issues.

Answer 4

calmly explain to your mother what's going on. i don't know anything about your family so i cant really help you as much as i would like. however, if your mother won't do anything about your father, talk to you school counselor. counselors are trained professionals who know how to deal with this type of thing. get out while you still can.

Answer 5

Call the cops next time he hits you. It is against the law.