why is my life so sad? right now it feels as though its over, ive just shouted at my mum like i hate her?

Question

because she tried to tell me about myself, im in a rut with my depression where i cant do anything, ive got no energy to do anything, not even pick anythin up from my no carpeted floor, im livin in a small flat which i hate, im stayin up all night not gettin any sleep then sleepin through the whole day, waking up in the evening, my mum tried to tell me to get a grip and help myself, and ive just shouted at her really aggressively sayin its really hard to just gett a grip. i wanna move out of here but cant see me doing so, i feel trapped, its a noisy rough area i live in. i honestly dont no how long i can keep it together for sometimes. and no. im not gonna turn myself in to a hospital. for anyone who tries to suggest it. my moods swing badly, i feel empty and low horrendous, when i go out i feel panicky, angry, paranoid, i have spinnin thoughts and very low self esteem, i stuggle to get a grip..this has been goin on for 15 years im 29, i dont have a life, i want a life, f**k !!

Answer 1

Sometimes, looking at the huge picture is overwhelming. The first thing you need to do is break it down into your smaller needs. For example: If you are having mood swings, perhaps you are bi-polar and need some medication. Obtaining a therapist for support can help. Your sleeping needs to be regulated. Try to wean yourself of sleeping all day. Set an alarm and start moving so you can get on a "normal" schedule"

Now, since you have a therapist, are on meds, have returned to a normal schedule, start looking at your job goals. What are your skills? What do you like to do? Is training an option?

You are 29 years old and have some really great years ahead of you. Start with the small things - the things you CAN handle...and then go from there. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

you are in a pattern and need to do something anything to change it . With in healthy means . I bet you consume a lot of caffeine and sugar! Try telling yourself positive every day. We have all all felt this way before. Make a change try something new! I did i started belly dancing made new friends got fit and now i get paid 200.00 a show ! Another words you never know what new thing you try will bring abundance in your life . pray, read , play ( remember when you were little and you had fun just doing some thing simple like going on a slide or for a swim)
go back to school maybe for a trade .this will boost your earning and fast as well as lifting your self esteem . hang out with positive people . Get up 15 min early every day to get back on a
good sleep schedule. listen to music that cheers you up! watch comedies this has been proven to be more effective than medication for depression. oh and smile science proved the
expression can can come before the feeling . Tell your mom
you are sorry and that you appreciate her being courageous enough to not let you ruin your life . one more volunteer!!! it shows you how good you have it and it makes you feel better about your self . ps im not full of it i have had to do all of these
things good well wishes.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you feel this way...i'm sure it's hard, but it sounds like you don't really do anything like work or school....maybe you should get a part time job AWAY from where you live...it would help you in SO many ways....#1 you'd get a break from your crappy neighborhood #2 you'd have something to concentrate on #3 you would get tired out, so when you get home, you'd be ready for bed.#4 you would make some money to either do things that you enjoy, so that you arent home and bored and aggravated...sometimes even taking a trip BY YOURSELF to a place where you dont know anyone is helpful. that way you can relax, be outside, or shop or whatever. and #5 you could save up money to move out, you'd meet friends or at least people to chit chat with every once in a while....do something fun tho, dont go somewhere that requires a stupid uniform...maybe a clothing store, or a bookshop or even a school or something.....i dont know if your on medication, but if you are, talk to your doc about other meds...so you can see if they might make you a little less iritable....i hope you feel better soon, and find some advice that helps you...good luck!

Answer 4

Your problem should have been taken care of along time ago, has anything been done to alleviate your symptoms? has mum taken you to a doctor? Did you attend school? you do have a problem, then the first thing is to correct it, by seeing a doctor in the mental health field. I can sort of guess why you are 29, and still living at home, but you should have been seeking help for yourself at your age. First take care of your mental state, then maybe you can work on getting a life for yourself. Work to get out of a bad living environment, and what does your mother do ? There is something very wrong here, and you need to go back to school, read self books, go to a doctor that can help you, and then, help yourself.......Oh, to be 29 again, some of us cannot get it back....good luck, stop feeling sorry for yourself, It doesn't help. God helps those who help themselves..........

Answer 5

It will be okay. Lots of people go through this and don't try to change, so you'll get there! I know how hard it is, but you have to get out and be active. The less you sit and 'think', the more you can try to move on with your life. Start a hobby. Learn to do anything; knit, paint, sew, just something to keep yourself occupied. I know it's hard to get a grip but you have to sit back and ask yourself, what are your other options? You HAVE to get a hold on yourself and do what you have to do to feel better. Just think of it like you have no choice! It will be hard and it won't be fun, but you'll come out on top. When it's all over, because this WILL pass, you can be proud of what a strong person you are. And don't forget to smile. :)

Answer 6

Please go to a doctor as soon as you can and get some help, probably the NHS has one close to you. To me, it sounds like you have severe depression complicated with what sounds like agoraphobia. I have been where you are, having the panic attacks and not wanting to leave the house, and just not caring about anything.

First of all, it's not anything you've done wrong, it's caused by a chemical inbalance. You probably need a drug of some kind to balance you out and a counselor as well....you'll feel loads better once the drug is in your system.

I know you don't hate your mum and she knows that too...even though it's probably a bit difficult for her to deal with something she doesn't understand.

Please, please get to a doc, I promise you things will get better...and if you feel like a chat, let me know and I'll try to get an email addy to you...

Answer 7

Do you have a job? If not, try to get one. Get out more, do things, anything! You need to seek help for yourself. You are very depressed and sounds like you have anxiety as well. You need to be on medication to help with these feelings. Get yourself to a good psyciatrist so you can get medication and start feeling better! Please do this ASAP! You will be glad that you did!

Answer 8

It definitely seems that you are severely depressed. I think you should go to see your doctor and tell him or her exactly how you feel. You will feel so much better once you receive treatment. Take care!

Answer 9

You sound like you're pretty far gone. Seek out a therapist immediately. Life can suck, but it can be really good too.

Answer 10

Get this book: http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/157224108X/sr=8-4/qid=1160599148/ref=pd_bbs_4/104-9430732-7654329?ie=UTF8&s=books

And get lots of exercise. Honestly, reading the stuff is this book was eye-opening for me.