Why do Stay-At-Home Mothers drive me nuts?

Question

I am a Stay-At-Home Dad with 3 kids (1 set of twins) and I think I have it pretty easy but whenever I get into parenting chatrooms (or here) it seems like all the SAHMs do is complain about how hard it is and how no one respects them. I think this is the easiest job I ever had and since I am grateful to be able to do it I am more understanding of how hard my wife works. Why am I driven so mad by these women who think this is difficult?

Answer 1

I stay at home -its easy peasy lemon squeezy!!!

It drives you nuts because you are so good at it.

Answer 2

Those who complain about it being difficult have never had a really challenging job, obviously. Sorry, I know that's going to offend a few, but it is true. And I am not talking "waiting tables" challenging. I mean a job where your a$$ is on the line if your division doesn't produce enough $$ or new clientele for a quarter. I have been working in that type of environment for ten years, the entire time with anywhere from 2-4 kids at home. I stayed home for 3 weeks after a surgery once and all I could think was "How can anyone complain about this?". True, people may get tired of doing it all the time. If so, they need to make a change for themselves. Not sit around and bit@h about how hard it is. There should be a law that you cannot complain about your problems unless you are actively doing something to try to solve them.

Answer 3

Duh, because your a guy.

Women are raised to be the victim, and oh yeah, don't forget the hormones. That's just the way most of them are, you can't change it, you can't fix (though I know you want to), it just is.

I am a part time sahm with a darling daughter (16 mos), I don't stay home full time, so I'm sure I don't feel as isolated as these moms, but since I live 100 miles away from my family and my mom passed 5 years ago, I can sometimes understand the way they feel.

But my daughter is the easiest, most fun, most blessed job I've ever had, and I would not trade one minute of my overly busy day!
Being a parent IS the most unappreciated, tough job you will ever have, being a great parent means the smiles and giggles you get from your kids is more than payment in full.

Answer 4

I suppose cause you find it so easy you can't see why anyone would have the right to complain.
As a new mum (my baby is nearly 6 months old) I wouldnt say it was hard and I certainly wouldnt change a thing. But, there are days when you find it unnerving cause you cant settle your baby, and then there are many nights where you cant sleep - if your not used to it, I supose it would be difficult. Once your in a routine though, its easier - the same as anything.
Also, I recon if you love what you do that certainly makes it easier.
Wishes n Dreams XxX

Answer 5

Most mothers I have met, and I am a stay at home mother of 5 girls, do not demand respect from anyone. Not their chidren, spouse, strangers and I don't think even themselves! You should be proud of the decision you make for yourself and portray that to others. My Life is a lot of work but whos isn't? Stay at home or not anyone who complains all the time is not enjoyable!!!

Answer 6

Because all women want is to be respected and reconized by thier other half. I used to a stay at home mon=m. then times changed and I have to work. I would love to stay at home agian with my 3 kids. The reason the other women complain so much is maybe thier husbands or other halfs do nothing when they come home from work. stay at home parents jobs never end until the kids are sleeping. You know how that goes.

Answer 7

I agree. It's all a question of time managment. When you have kids, you have to use your time more effectively. I also work from home so for me, it's even more of a juggle. Frankly, I think a lot of the SAHMs and SAHDs that do complain haven't been in the work force and would rather have time to do whatever the heck they want to, when they want to and don't consider that if they'd schedule their days a little better, they'd end up with more time!

Answer 8

I have often found kids listen better to the Dad in the family. But I say hey - if you love it (I do too as a stay at home Mom) all the power to you. Your kids are only little once and the time you spend is the most important thing in the world. The Mom's who rant probably don't have a supportive (emotionally) spouse and need to vent somewhere.

Answer 9

Trust me, I fully appreciate how hard my husband works, but the truth is, most of the time if you tell someone that you are a stay at home mom, the reaction is "So....you don't do anything". That gets pretty darn frustrating when you are a cook, housekeeper, nurse, teacher, etc. on any given day. Yeah, it's by no stretch the hardest thing I've ever done, but put it on a resume and see how far it gets you!

Answer 10

I think these women maybe just want to be respected as much as their working husbands/boyfriends. Some people may think that staying at home means you get to laze around and do nothing all day while your partner is out working to make money. Since that's not true, some women may feel that they have to make their lives seem harder than they are to feel that they are on equal ground.

Answer 11

Parkdad, some people aren't happy unless they are complaining about something. I also think it's because women are just prone to gossip and whine on a regular basis. It's in their nature. So don't take it so seriously, it won't matter in a week anyway, will it?
Hope you're having fun staying at home!