My son is 3. Turning 4 in November. He lacks motivation. Every night he cries because he doesn't want to go to school the next morning. In the morning he doesn't cry. He goes to school calmly. But I feel he's unhappy. The teacher tells me he doesn't like to work. He has the ability but lacks encouragement. On the other hand, I don't know if it's the teaching method they use in school. They force him to paint even if he doesnt like to paint. They force him to color even if he doesnt like to color. Today for instance, they forced him to finish his painting and since he had to sit and finish his work, he didn't get to play. Do u think it's my son who needs the encouragement? Or is it the school that needs to change their teaching method? or both? Please help!
2006-10-11 09:21:33 · 9 answers · asked by Mannie-mannie 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
sorry- when i say "school" i mean preschool.
2006-10-11 09:43:51 · update #1
I think that your son feels an uncommon stress for his age. Probably, because he is only three, he'll mature a lot and grow out of that. IN the mean time, I think that you should bribe him with a fun activity (like riding bikes or something) ON occasion, you could treat him to McDonald's, but it is not a good idea to always motivate him with food.
2006-10-11 09:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplest way to tell if the problem is with your son or the teacher is to switch schools. If you get the same feedback from a different teacher, I would say that it is your son that needs encouragement.
I suggest finding a Montessori preschool. Montessori is an environment that encourages pupils to study what they like, and has less "pigeonhole" teaching. Any child who doesn't like preschool is going to have a difficult time in public school as well, so do your best to correct the problem as soon as possible.
2006-10-11 09:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by songbird 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG your son is a BABY!!!!
I live in England and have 2 children aged 5 & 7. They started school in the school year they turned 5. Due to their birthdays, my daughter was nearly 5, but my son had only just turned 4 the week before. They're both doing fine at school, but their foreign counterparts in Europe don't even start school until 6 or 7 years of age.
This doesn't make them backward - the children are just more ready for school and consequently pick things up much quicker.
Your little boy wants to play, and who could argue with that? My children both went to nursery and enjoyed it, but OFSTED dictated that the nursery was not allowed to teach the children to read, write etc - it was more about developing social skills. So all they did was play - chosing what THEY wanted to play with (in a controlled environment such that only a limited amount of activities would be available to chose from.)
I'm totally horrified that any "school" could force a child so young to do something they don't want to do in this way. It's one thing to make him apologise for being naughty, but it's another thing altogether to make him paint when he clearly doesn't want to. From his point of view it must be just like hell.
Boys more than girls are less ready for school at such a young age. They are developing their physical skills and generally aren't too interested in sitting still. Obviously there comes a time when they have to, but not at 3 years of age!!
The school your child is at may well suit some children but your child is so obviously not one of these. I would pull him out immediately before this school potentially puts him off all schooling for life.
They grow up so quickly, don't be in such a hurry to push him in his studies - when he's ready he'll do it just fine.
Now go and give him a huge great hug!!
Good luck
2006-10-11 09:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by SL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At that age, play is more important than being forced by adults to do things against his will. He should be interacting more with other children. Why school when he is still so young? Give your son the opportunity to enjoy life. The serious, regimented tasks are for his future 70 or so years. Let him live as a child while he still can.
2006-10-11 09:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son is three and already goes to a school that makes him paint and crayon? Maybe you need a different school one that allows a three year old to be a kid. Most three year old kids wont finish most of their projects as they dont have the attention span to finish up. Maybe just maybe its not your child but the school.
2006-10-11 09:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Amberlyn4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should be playing, not "fininshing work".
that's how 3 year olds learn.
read the book "Einstein Never Used Flash Cards: How Our Children Really Learn-- And Why They Need to Play More and Memorize Less" by by Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, Diane Eyer, Roberta Michnick Golinkoff and get your kid into a program that values play and childhood.
2006-10-11 13:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by answer faerie, V.T., A. M. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he is very young to be in preschool so if i were you i would let him enjoy his youth and place him in a educational daycare. where they will make learning fun and he will not know he is even doing work
2006-10-11 09:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by lilshorty3088 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nether you need to change your thinking so you don't raise a pansie and so your kid can grow up to be a good person and not a wortless bastard.
2006-10-11 12:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't think u r son is too yung,what u did is good when u r son will get to school
he will be great!!!!!!!
but sometimes u need to ask him what he wants to do!!!,so you can do what he likes,and enjoy his happiness!!!!???
2006-10-11 10:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by dasilva_princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋