anyway my bf is at work and his phone rang i started to asnwer it, but it was a local number, a woman, i dont know what to do if she calls back. should i answer the phone? should i ask him about it? am i over-reacting? we've been dating for almost 4 yrs. i thought everything was fine. maybe its not. it may just be my "paranoia". what would you do?
2006-10-11 09:10:25 · 27 answers · asked by carmen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It honestly does not matter. You have to decide if you trust him. If he is worthy of your trust. Hey I know you could get burned but thats the chance we all take when we enter into a relationship. If you trust him. then that woman called for a legitimate reason. and thats all there is to it. But if you dont trust him. then it doesnt matter if he is faithful. you dont trust him and you cant have a relationship without trust.
2006-10-11 09:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Armond B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if the woman is a business relationship that might be upset if you answer in a huff? I'd just leave well enough alone.
If you are dying to know, I'd find out in a round about way. For example, "When I was waiting for you to come home from ____, the phone rang, I thought it was you. I was about to answer it and the caller id said it was _____________ ... Is that a friend of your mother's or something?"
2006-10-11 17:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know it was a woman maybe it was one of his friends calling from someone Else's house. answer the phone next time after 4 years what would he be hiding
2006-10-11 16:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by teresa n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely over-reacting. Why not just ask her who she is or ask your bf, for all you know it could just be a friend or business associate. But if they act suspicious when you ask them about it, then that would be a different story.
Don't jump to conclusions. Get the facts, and then act accordingly.
2006-10-11 16:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE BEING WAY OVER PARANOID
give the guy a break! it could be anyone! a wrong number, a co worker, a possible job opening, maybe e lost his wallet and someone found it. maybe it is one of his friends that has his ph number under his wife or mother or girlfreinds name
you need to chill the hell out and stop being a psycho b*itch
2006-10-11 16:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would answer the phone and see who it is .. it might just be someone from work or about something else nothing big and then I would ask him about it .. hell I would have called it back from you phone to see who it is that way she doesn't know you know him or that you are his gf just to see whats up .. good luck
2006-10-11 16:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by nobodysangel2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carmen ask him up front if you should answer the phone or not: and if he says NO ask him why. For all you know this girl could be a relation to him not a replacement girlfriend.
2006-10-11 16:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if your that uncomforatable about it, dont accuse him of anything or act upset about it, just calmly ask him and accept his answer if he gets extremely defensive about it then, well i'm not sure what after that, but if you cant be honest and talk about things with eachother without getting upset then it may not end up being a very good relationship communication is everything
2006-10-11 16:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by dae_shadow_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he gives you a reason to be suspicious, I wouldn't think about it. It may be a co-worker calling for some reason or it could be a friend. Don't borrow problems that aren't there!
2006-10-11 16:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casually mention it without giving him the 3rd degree interrogation, let him know you didn't actually answer the phone, and watch his reaction.
Know this universal fact about all men and women:
If you don't have anything to hide, you won't be trying to hide anything.
Best to you both.
2006-10-11 16:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋