Jealous BF's... answer if you dare...?

Question

Alrighty... I have a BF, we've been together for 5 years, living together for 3. I love him and don't want to be with anyone else.

Here's the situation... I have this guy friend, nice guy, and I know he would never try anything with me, but he does have a ginormous crush on me. Actually he's kind of obsessed (he calls me his "Goddess"). But really he's harmless...

But heres the deal... He's got this thing about buying women stuff. And since he likes me so much, he's been buying me things lately. After just a few weeks it's totalled to nearly $170 ...

should I allow him to buy me all these things? Am I leading him on? Is this on some level cheating on my bf? Thanks for your help all!

Answer 1

In this case I would say you are leading him on unknowing though. He really likes you and thinks he will have you one day if he waits around long enough. Since you have no intrest in him you artre wasting his time in finding someone that will love him just as much as he loves you. As a friend you should want him to be happy and want him to find someone and the best way is to break his heart unfortunately. You have got to tell him no more gifts and you need a break from him I know it's nice to get gifts but you are ruining his life by not helping him see the truth for what it is you don't want him or love him and that is something that is hard to explain to a worshiper. Good luck.

Answer 2

He's not harmless in that all this could lead to trouble, his giving u gifts et al. Why does he call u his goddess, thats flirting too.
You are also flirting if u encourage this behaviour.
You wouldnt have asked this question if you thought all this is right.
I wouldnt go so far as to call it cheating on ur bf but chance are always there that you will turn to this guy on the rebound if u have a tiff with your guy, or for one reason or another, eventually it will happen and that will be cheating.
Why indulge in something thats potentially dangerous?You must ask yourself if u r missing something in ur current relationship for u to want to carry on flirting with this other guy.Work on your rel with ur bf.
Why is this other guy buying u gifts, its not normal.

Answer 3

I think you should tell your bf what is going on with your friend.

If the situation were reversed you would not like him accepting gifts from another girl. Technically it is not cheating but there is a certain degree of sneaking around (accepting the gifts) and not telling him where they are really coming from.

No you shouldn't allow him to buy things for you, and he is not respecting the relationship that you already do have.

Answer 4

I don't get it, you said "he does have a ginormous crush on you" and you let him call you goddess, buy you stuff etc? what's wrong with you, girl?

let me get this right:
this poor thing likes you. but you have a boyfriend.
do you like him? do you want to cheat? or make him a boyfriend and dump yours?

if you still want to be with your bf, you should be stick with him and be clear with this poor guy instead of confusing him even more. by accepting his gift, you just approve his attention and give him hope.

and that's wrong, unless if you like him too and you want to dump your bf.

or maybe, you can convince your bf that it's ok for you to have 2 boyfriends and for him to shut up and don't get jealous.

but perhaps you would consider to shut up and not being jealous too if there is a girl do the same thing to your bf..

what d'u think?

Answer 5

you need to do him the service of letting him know you have nothing for him, and that the gifts need to stop. If I were your boyfriend, I would get very jealous, very fast. This will only create problems and the "just friends" **** don't work when you're in a relationship, especially if you're married. You can be friends with couples, but ti's not a very good thing to be friends witht he opposite sex... and yes, if you let him keep doing this, it qualifies you for being a bad person.

Answer 6

you're jealous because of the fact your boyfriend unearths somebody to boot you alluring. No, you mustn't tell him. you will in basic terms argue. he's a guy and he won't understand why you're so dissatisfied. do not say something. think of roughly people to boot your boyfriend which you stumble on alluring..celebrities, acquaintances, absolutely everyone, and which you stumble on alluring. Then ask your self, "even in spite of the undeniable fact that i detect those adult males alluring, do I nonetheless like my boyfriend?" you will probable say sure, and he's questioning the comparable element. Doing this would desire to help you spot that its not this manner of massive deal to discover somebody to boot your boyfriend alluring. wish that facilitates! Oh and throw away that photograph. Seeing it somewhat is purely going to make you obsess over it whether you purely glanced at it by utilising twist of destiny. Out of sight, out of recommendations.

Answer 7

Would you mind if this was reversed ...? .and there was a girl obssessed with your bf.. buying him stuff?... don't even think of saying yes... you know u wouldn't like it.

would you think she was harmless..? you are leading him on ... its not cheating ... its just a lack of respect ... u need a real man to whip you into shape ...

sorry ... im taken


Dr Bad
ps .. wow i have never seen everyone unanimously agree this way before ... you are a very naughty girl ..

Answer 8

I do not think you should let him buy you anything if there is not a future in it. be friends but he seems to be trying to buy your love it is not right. How does it make your boyfriend feel. It could go both ways what if he had a female friend and he was spending a lot of time with her and she was buying him things how would you feel.

Answer 9

So are you saying that you would be ok with some girl being head over heals for your guy ? Would it be ok with you if she called him her god ?? Would it make you jealous if you didn't like it ? How about him coming home with $170 worth of gifts she got him ?? Its always easy to call other people jealous when its you dishing it out.

Answer 10

does your bf know about the gifts from this guy? if you love your bf like you say you do why are you accepting gifts from someone else. in some way you are leading this guy on.
it is not cheating but it is not acceptable behaviour it shows your relationship with your bf is not good