ive been wit my gf for almost 4 years we have been friends since jr high and her parent dont like me,i believe it is because i am black and she is mexican. They restrict her alot and we are not able to spend any time as we would like. We are now seniors and they constantly threaten to take her car if she does not break up wit me. We truly love each other but it is difficult to find a way to get her parents to understand that. What would be a good way to get her paretns to listen to wat we have to say?
2006-10-11 08:53:49 · 15 answers · asked by Sean 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, listening to her parents about your relationship that they already do not like is like talking to a wall. They are not going to care about you arguing the facts, because there decision is already decided. Also, arguing about being with her is just going to make them hate you more.
If you both want a relationship you need to wait until she is able to make her own decisions without her family getting involved. I say this out of experience. I had it the worst in high school because I'm Japanese and my boyfriend now husband is Korean. I had it worst trust me. If she loves you and you love her you will always find a way. You both might have to suck it up and just have in school and phone conversations until you both can meet, but you will only make situations worse if you keep confronting her parents.
Remember whatever you do to them will affect how they treat her when you aren't around. Love her and make sure where she is now is OK for her until you both get situated in your own places or something.
Good Luck To You Both.
2006-10-11 09:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by KeKe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to earn their trust, show them that you are the one for their daughter and prove them wrong!Tell them how you feel about her and that you do love her very much but also respect the family they might not think your such a bad guy but maybe you both need to grow maturity wise and they probably want her to focus on other things like education rather than rushing into a relationship always talk things out communicate and make a wise decision!
2006-10-11 09:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by 411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that must be really rough on you guys. I very much dislike racism. Have you tried just hanging out with her family and letting them know more about you? Maybe if you just set them down and have a serious conversation about your relationship and that you guys are together because you love each other and truly want to be together. Tell them that you aren't going to go away easily. But that you don't want your girlfriend to have to choose between her family and her boyfriend. Maybe you guys can reach a compromise somehow. Good luck to you and your girl.
2006-10-11 08:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by val 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried to sit her parents down and talk to them? I had a best friend who was in a very similar situation. Unfortunately some people in this world are so small minded that they have to resort to racism. Try and talk to them. What if they don't like you because of something that they thought you did or said? Maybe it's just a misunderstanding. I know it's hard to be with someone when her family is telling her to get rid of you. Try to talk to them like an adult and see what they have to say.
2006-10-11 08:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience i can sympathize. Your girlfriend is in a difficult position. As most have already written, yes she Will soon be of legal age to do as she pleases, but this will not end the torment from her family. Hard as it may be (this could take years), the best real solution is to prove yourself to her family. Do not have her to sneak around and see you, this will kill any chance of their acceptance of your relationship. By attempting to conform to their rules and still maintaining your ground they WILL eventually see the reasons why she loves you so much! Good luck!
2006-10-11 09:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one! But, if you and her have faith in yourselves as a couple. You can accomplish it. As a black man, you'll have to prove your worthiness to them. Their closed minded when it comes to interracial relations. I suggest your girlfriend takes the incentive. Hand the car keys back as you both plead your case Make a stand or fall. That's what unity is about. Let's see where the Love really lays!!
2006-10-11 09:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience with mexicans and being that they are older people they might not ever understand u proble wont get them to listen. just treat her right and hope time heals their fears. but always respect them so in the long run they cant say anything bad about u
2006-10-11 09:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Race is a hard wall to bring down. Your only best bet is to try to get them to know you. Once they get the know you they might start to like you and look past the race issue. Very hard though in families that are racist.
2006-10-11 08:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u truely love each other then theres your answer. sit down and have a talk with the parents and find out why they do not like you. i mean hey its worth a try.
2006-10-11 08:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by kylie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋