i was talking w/ a friend about future weddings (we both have serious boyfriends), and she said she wanted to make sure her bridesmaid had Ugly dresses because she's been to a few weddings where the BM's were prettier than the Bride... do u think that is selfish? would it make u think twice if she asked u to be a bridesmaid?
2006-10-11 08:49:24 · 30 answers · asked by tarmee2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She better plan to pay for her bridesmaid's dresses.
I wouldn't stand up in a wedding if I didn't have input on what I was going to wear, but that is just me.
2006-10-11 08:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a strange comment for someone to make. Is it selfish? Sure! But, isn't a wedding supposed to be about the bride (and groom, but mostly the bride)? If so, then yeah, she has every right to be selfish. Would it make me think twice about being in her wedding party? Heck yeah. I wouldn't want to waste hundreds of dollars on a dress that is ugly (intentionally) and I know I will never wear again. But, realize that this is just fantasy right now. She hasn't gotten engaged and started planning her wedding. When she does, she may rethink the ugly dress idea. Remember, she does have to look at these pictures of her one and only wedding day for the rest of her life. Will she pick glamorous, gorgeous, amazing gowns? Probably not. But, will she pick out and out ugly? Probably not, either. She will probably pick something plain and simple--she doesn't want you guys to show her up. And you know what? That's okay. She's the bride and wants to feel special. I would keep that comment in the back of my mind and when she does get engaged and if she does ask you to be her bridesmaid, remind her of that comment and ask if she still feels that way. If she does, then politely decline and move on. If she says she doesn't but doesn't want anything too flashy, help her pick out something simple, yet tasteful. That way you get a dress that you don't feel is a waste and she gets to stand out as the really, really beautiful bride.
2006-10-11 22:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I would only be a part of a wedding party if I was very close with the bride and/or groom.
Second, if this is a person I truly care about...I would wear whatever she wanted me to wear. If they want ugly dresses so myself or someone else didn't "upstage them", fine. The person who said they wouldn't be in a wedding if they didn't have a say in what THEY wear is a selfish brat. It's NOT YOUR DAY. Please.
Third, it's kind of important for your friend to know these are the dresses that will be photographed over and over and if she wants ugly dresses to be part of her marital history, then fine.
Selfish? Yes. Insecure of her to say that? Very much.
But, if she wants attendee's of the wedding to mock her taste in dresses and have a lifetime of looking at hideous pictures, let her have at it. She'll regret it and then it would be to late.
2006-10-15 02:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by kcarp73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...because if she made you wear an ugly dress then she would just have an ulgy wedding. shes the one who has to look at the pictures for the rest of her life and listen to guests whisper about how ugly the bridesmaids look. Nobody looks better then the bride on her wedding day so she needs to get over herself.
2006-10-12 11:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, and yes
If you think about it, ugly bridesmaids dresses REALLY show that the bride doesn't have any taste. (whether she does or not) Have you noticed that?
I was actually in a wedding where the bridesmaid looked better than BOTH brides. (But that's a whole other story that, by the end will have you on the floor in tears!)
2006-10-11 16:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is true that some women do pick out ugly dresses on purpose. I would still be willing to be in her wedding though. Just tell her when these dresses are being discussed that payback is a *itch! Hopefully, she will not go overboard. I would remind her that if the dress is too hideous, some women may back out, and that would be terrible for her "planning."
2006-10-11 15:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether on purpose or not, most bridesmaids have ugly dresses. So this is to be expected if you are a bridesmaid. So, it would not discourage me. And honey, even in my ugly dress I would look better than the bride :)
2006-10-11 15:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by z 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
LOL- I use to joke about that all the time- maybe she was half kidding. I do however want my bridemaids to be fully covered- some of the dresses are really way too sexy. But with all the choice out there- I am sure she will find something nice that won't by ugly but won't up show her.
I won't worry about it until she is actually engaged.... and she'll be older and wiser :)
2006-10-11 16:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hell ya. And imagine that as hard as she tries to make you look ugly you still dont, then what ? Is she going to give you an attitude all day ? Ask you to step out of the pictures ?? How weird. You would think you would want them all to look good at your wedding.
2006-10-11 15:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How good of a friend is she? I know her attitude is a little shallow but let me tell you....if my best friend asked my to wear a gunny sack to her wedding, I would because I love her and her wedding day is not about me at all. It is about her, and if that is what she needs to feel secure....then okay. I have 364 other days in the year to look fabulous.
2006-10-11 15:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋