I've been with my boyfriend for nearly four years but lately I've had doubts about our relationship. I feel that I just get slot in around his schedule of hobbies and I'm sick of feeling like I'm just squeezed in. I feel that if we have a break then we can both think about what we want and if we want the relationship to work. Has anybody ever took a break from their relationship and has this made things better or worse?
2006-10-11 08:45:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I have and things are going great now. Sometimes we just get a little off track and it's easy to start to get resentful when you're stuck in a rut. Do it and tell each other it's not because you don't care but because you do care. Recharge and come back to each other refreshed. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-11 08:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the time it makes it worse. conversations with friends and family start turning negative due to both partners speaking about the relationship and what went wrong. most of the time friends and family form a negative opinion thus causing further trouble. this is a result from the partners being pressed to talk about the issues.
also, some will make comments like "i never did like her/him" or "you two never seemed the right fit".
remember, if you are separated then the mind will wander what is he/she doing which will cause a further decline in the relationship. don't let ANYONE hand you the line about trust. it seems day to day, the relationship will deteriate and get worse.
the old line that says "being apart makes the heart grow fonder" does not apply to relationships in trouble.
why don't you have a non threatening conversation with him. speak of your feelings and you want more of his attention. one thing you might ought to think about is that maybe what you are experiencing is what most married couples experience at some point in their relationship. you could also be a little bit to sensitive however i'm sure he needs to be a little more attentive.
remember, the next guy will have the same tendacy in some manner or form just like the next girl will be similar to you.
i think if you both care about each other then work it out if you can.
one thing for sure is if there is a break in the relationship one of you is going to wish they had worked harder.
taking a break just doesn't work most of the time!
good luck!
2006-10-11 16:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by lou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my partner for 14 years and we had a break in that time. It did not work because we both started to enjoy the freedom that we had when we was apart. We both agreed that while we was on the break that we would not see anyone else in a sexual manor.
When we got back together after the break it was really hard for us both to get back in to the rel, We both had a lot of questions. We did split up a short time latter because he believed that i had been with someone else In which i had not. We had lost that trust in one another. I feel that if you are together why would you want to take a break and risk what would happen if you was apart.
I think if you want to take a break really think about it first, Make sure its really is what you want.
2006-10-12 04:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfreind took a break for about 9 months then we got back together. We did our own thing and went out with other people and realized we wanted to be together. If it is really meant to be you will find your way back. If you feel like you need to do it then go ahead and break up. I think it made my relationship with him better because i realized that he was the one for me. The things you didnt appreciate at first you will appreciate it when you get back together. The down side would be if you guys have a change of heart and like it better with out each other or one person wants to get back and not the other. It realy is a gamble, But good luck!
2006-10-11 15:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was with someone for 6 years and i was unsure about the relationship, i loved her but i couldnt see myself settling down with her, i knew that living with her would drive me up the wall but seeing her now and again was ok. I desided to have a break (well actually i suggested it a few times) but in the end i desided to be friends and to add a twist to the story that didnt work out either as she wanted more and kept going on at me about it all the time. So in the end it turned out to be a complete split. My advice is if your unsure now its prob not going to work out i would end things before it gets more serious and harder to get out of.
2006-10-11 16:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ben O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes took a break 5yrs into the relationship got back together for 4 more yrs and just split up again no going back this time cos things never really change
2006-10-11 16:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to walk away from something you've invested so much time and emotions in...it's understandable that you are having doubts...maybe your to young to be tied down or your not ready to give up your freedom....whatever the reason for these thoughts Its your conscience speaking and I wouldn't ignore it...take time out to figure out if this is truly what you want...maybe it will take you both dating other people to figure it out...just keep in mind your not married (yet) so this is the time to explore your options....good luck!
2006-10-11 16:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by LaShes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I took a break to get our lives on track. I graudated from college he got promoted on his job. We still talk every few months, but its not the same. When we talk now its like don't really want to talk about the relationship, but you really do. It depends on how strong he really feels for you
2006-10-11 15:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. what if your boyfriend meets someone else during this break and you want to get back together or what if its the other way around? i think you would be really hurt. anyway just break up and stay friends.
2006-10-11 15:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to agree with the others on this...if you want a break, you may as well break up. If you started seeing other people while on this 'break', you certainly wouldnt wanna go back to him!
2006-10-11 15:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by sel2k00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋