did you offer to adopt that baby or help her find an adoption agency, did you help walk her through the process or mayhaps you paid her medical bills. Did you offer to provide her with prenatal vitamins throughout her pregnancy? Or buy diapers for the baby after she was born? Did you help her find programs that could help her after having the baby and before such as WIC?
Or did you just pat yourself on the back for job well done. You know bringing another child into poverty with a mother not quite ready for the job.
2006-10-11 08:42:21 · 34 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
truth seeker, so that means you havn't done anything to help after the fact the??
2006-10-11 08:45:44 · update #1
she was going to take responsibility, and exercise her right under law to have an abortion.
2006-10-11 08:46:53 · update #2
my mom had achoice, she chose not to, but if she had, it was her choice. I for one would never take choice away from my mother, just as I would never take it away from any woman.
2006-10-11 08:49:22 · update #3
what am I doing to help.....I donate diapers to these women, I buy and donate formula to these women, I provide rides to doctors appt. and knit blankets for babies who have been born to women in poverty. Do i want them to have abortions? no, but its their choice to or not, and if they do not because of the intervention of a pro life group or individual, than I think it is that persons responsibility to help her. As she was being responsible by making a choice to abourt her child. The last time i looked it was still legal.
2006-10-11 08:56:35 · update #4
Truth seeker, the point is that a first-trimester abortion is not killing a baby. What you're doing is stopping a pregnancy that would, months later, result in the birth of a baby. And, you didn't answer the question. Do you help these girls care for the baby? What if the child has developmental or physical problems? Do you even contribute to or volunteer at places that help these girls? Or do you just shoot your mouth off and then move on?
And, no, I've never had an abortion; I have two children who were very much wanted from the day they were conceived, but I celebrate their birthdays on the day they were born, not before that.
2006-10-11 08:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
sounds like someone is bitter, is that a correct assessment? I am not faulting you for feeling the way you do, but why do you think that the responsibility doesn't lie with the person who chose have sex and became pregnant from such actions?
adoption to me is just passing the buck, putting the responsibility onto someone else, who may be fit, or may not be, would you want to put that burden on your child?
Speaking as someone who was the victim of adoption and the victim of parents who didn't want a child, but decided to keep me anyway, was the BEST thing they could have done. I no longer fault them, nor do I take on the blame I did as a child... something happened to me along the way... I grew up. and decided that in order to break the cycle so to speak is that I would not have a child unless I was ready... my parents gave me the opportunity to live, yes in poverty, yes almost on the streets, yes I saw things a child shouldn't, and experienced things a baby shouldn't, but never the less, they chose LIFE for me, and because of hard ships, I APPRECIATE life more, and I am thankful, and My children would not be here if I wasn't!
we all have that choice, to or not to, it's up to us, but when we make it, we should accept our responsibility to acknowledge what we did to rectify the situation and not place is somewhere else where it doesn't belong.
Pro lifers want you to see the glorious side , sure raising a child is HARD even when you have money, no one is prepared for it, but the love out weighs all the pain and hardship. Love is ever lasting it's a bond that can never break even when the choice is made to end the life... the love lives on, and with it comes guilt or responsibilty...
having an abortion is just a quick fix, once you had one, you can never go back, emotionally, and then it just makes it easier to have another one, and yet another... each time something in side you dies, you become a shell with a wall around you... that's no way to live and society in my mind has no right to place such a huge responsibility to say it's okay, when it isn't. Life looses it's meaning once we said yes. Man kind means less now because as a whole, we have said, go ahead... it's alright, it is a quick solution and it tells us we are off the hook, society speaking... but what about the individual?
we are a hypocrites , allowing and denying at the same time, we are our own worst paradox.
2006-10-11 09:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Sigh*. How sad that you feel that way.
Yes, it would be great if we could extend a helping hand and offer support beyond convincing the mother to let her baby live.
But I give credit to the person who saves an infant's life, whether they pay the medical bills or not. I'm sorry, but it is plain m.urder to take a baby out of the womb, cut a hole in its head, and suck its brain out. It has been proven that after 9 weeks babies have developed emotions and can fully feel pain, so partial-birth abortions are nothing less than m.urder .
Even without partial-birth, abortion is hom.icide. It's funny how this "underage child" is mature enough to create a baby in the first place. The woman and man have unsafe s.ex out of wedlock and make a baby, and yet the most i.nnocent out of the three parties is punished-the infant.
And by the way, only 0.2% of all abortions in the United States have anything to do with r.ape, so that is not a very good comeback. Most abortions are because people have unsafe se.x, which is entirely the couple's fault, not the infant's.
Life is sacred and its about time we recognized that.
God bless!
2006-10-11 08:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are tons of programs, adoption agency's will pay for her vitamins and pre-natal expenses. Adoptive parents will even pay for the delivery expenses.
I have not personally talked anyone into not killing their baby, but I have spread word about the support programs to help these girls.
Would you say the same thing about the elderly? They can no longer work and be productive, they are VERY expensive to maintain.
On the flip side, if we don't have more kids, our Social Security will have a very hard time keeping up. From an economic standpoint we NEED the babies!
So, should we kill off people when they reach retirement and use the money on the babies instead?
Or just kill them all.
What about if (God forbid) you or I get into a car wreck and can no longer work, we might be thrust into poverty, what if someone would then decide better to kill us as well?
Slippery slope when we start playing God.
Abortion is not the choice.
Peace, and God Bless you.
2006-10-11 08:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Should everyone in poverty be killed? You made an important point though, their are programs out there that can help you, and there is always adoption. I did have a friend that had an abortion when she was a teenager. She has been living with such guilt that she often says " Why wasn't adoption ever an option with me with plan parent hood they just encouraged getting rid of it" So my question to you is Shouldn't these abortion clinics try to encourage adoption rather than taking the profit way all the time?
2006-10-11 08:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by ckrug 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Just because I'm against abortion doesn't mean I have the chance to go out and pull people from abortion clinics, as you seem to think we do. If I were in the position to convince someone to not have an abortion, I'd make sure she recieved the help she needed. Obviously, you think all of us pro-lifers are evil bigiots who don't care about the mother or the child, and just our own selish desires.
Question should be, what have you done to help anyone? Have you donated money for unwed mothers? Have you bought daipers for expecting mothers? Or do you just point them in the direction of the abortion clinic and pat yourself on the back. Bet you didn't know that abortions effect several of the mothers with depression?
2006-10-11 08:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by sister steph 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There are government and various non-profit organizations formed to lessen most of the problems you have just raised. There are also religious nuns and private clubs that have been ready to adopt those children born of irresponsible decisions. Abortion will just teach those people you wanted to protect to indulge in an activity they should know that there is a responsiblity attached to it. I for one have been donating those you mentions (since you asked) and are there are others more who did like me but we did not do it to pat our shoulders.
Abortion must be done only to those whose life is danger of bearing a child and must be find impossible to save but not to the underage child you are talking about instead they should be taught about the consequences in undulging themselves to an irresponsible actions not your easy way out suggestions.
There are also couples who cannot bear child at all who are willing to adopt and as long there will be other measures than abortion. we will stand steadfast to the pro-lifers position.
2006-10-11 09:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We supported Bethany, with is a Christian adoption agency. We also helped with several people in our church who had adopted children who otherwise would have aborted their babies. I personally helped several single mothers by being the "Uncle" for several kids (even though I have several of my own) as well as doing "guy things" like putting together furniture, cutting grass, and driving to the pharmacy at 2 am. Finally, we support Crisis Pregnancy Centers that do provide counseling, clothes, emergency shelter, and medical care.
Why do you assume we do nothing?
2006-10-11 08:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Remember, your Mom could've chosen to abort you too.
The soul exists from the moment the egg and sperm meet.
I know this because I felt the soul and presense of my baby come into me 38 minutes after conception and felt him leave when I went into pre-mature labor at 24 weeks and the placenta broke.
His body lived another 8 1/2 hours after that.
That was in January of 1999 and I still miss him.
That being said, you are right that there needs to be more help for those not ready to have a baby and need help with bills, jobs and adoption but does that justify murdering you?
NO!
IF YOU DON'T WANT A BABY THEN KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED AND STOP MAKING INNOCENT LIVES PAY FOR YOUR IMMORALITY.
IF YOU DON'T WANT A BABY THEN YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS.
2006-10-11 08:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by sworddove 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
people who say professional lifers do not say this are incorrect or mendacity. on a daily basis in this internet site it extremely is being pronounced. I have not any theory why they try to hide that up. they call professional-selection people professional-abortion. I definitely have considered it many times. i'm professional-existence, yet I comprehend what a terrible selection it must be for the standard public of girls people who've had abortions. call me professional selection.... i don't care... I in basic terms p.c. existence.
2016-10-16 02:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋