Ok the thing is that we still want each other but every time we fight he always talks about an ex girlfriend or a friend that is a girl how can i get him to stop doing that????
2006-10-11 08:37:15 · 26 answers · asked by Janey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good luck. Been in and out of the dating scene for quite a while now (I'm 26), and married the last 6 months. Attempting to change someone else's behavior doesn't work. In my experience, I can talk to someone and share with them when something is bothering me. If someone has my interest at heart, the change will come from them, not from me.
I tried changing ex's of mine for a long time. If I could just get them to act right, if they would quit talking to their ex's, if they wouldn't spend so much time on the phone with other people.....the list goes on and on. Sadly, what I found out was that I wasn't in a good relationship. "Wanting" each other and being willing to sacrifice and compromise to make a relationship work aren't quite the same thing.
Obviously he is an ex right now for some reason. It's awfully hard to re-light a struck match. I'm no guidance counselor, but my experience says leave it alone and move on.
2006-10-11 08:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The jealousy battle is a dangerous one. If you are already ex's and he is bringing up other girls just to make you jealous, who's to say he won't be doing things much worse in the future to get you going.
No one ever breaks up just once, it's almost always a long rough process liek this. I say leave him be and move on. Theres about 2 billion other fish in the sea and yes, you can feel the same thing with them that you think you will only feel with this guy
2006-10-11 15:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by LG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER get back with an ex. If he is an ex, he is an ex for a reason. Because it didn't work the first time. Sexual chemistry can be a big pain in the a**! Don't worry about getting him to stop. Worry about telling him he can find some one else to talk about his ex's with. Good Luck
2006-10-11 15:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to decide if you want to continue the relationship or not. Stop playing this halfway thing. If he's your ex, then move on and forget it. If you still want him, then get in the relationship and make it work. When I say that, I mean BOTH OF YOU.
2006-10-11 15:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him do anything. you can only tell him how it affects you and let him decide what to with it. If he changes then it means he's into you and wants to make it work. If he doesn't change then he's selfish and has a lot of growing up to do. In that case - take a break or break up all together. A cute guy isn't worth the controlling or emotional trauma of behavior like this.
2006-10-11 15:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was you i would play hard to get.. i had an ex that did that same thing and i just didn't call him or talk to him for like 3 months then now he calls me and wants to hang out with me now we are all good so just play hard to get don't go running to him let him come running to you... if he doesn't then it was not meant to be...
2006-10-11 15:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have that problem with my g/f. This is what i did...the next time that it happend, which it did...i told her straight up...to quit doing it. I told her if she didnt then just to go back with that person, if they talked about them so much. You gotta remember it's hard to be in relationships...and alot of people get hurt in them. The only person who can make him stop is YOU....and no one else. Just tell him straight up to stop and if he doesnt then tell him to go back with her or some other girl...cuz your supposed to be his #1 no matter what!!! Dont cause anymore pain to yourself, then what you've allready gone through. Goodluck
2006-10-11 15:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by blkhawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will never learn unless you tell him to think about what he keeps doing and then ignore him until he realizes something. you don't need that bs and I know you still care, but not if its hurting your feelings. no one deserves to made to feel like crap and if it keeps going on you will be in an endless cycle. think about what you want and ask yourself if he can realistically provide it. at the end of the day the very least you deserve is respect.
2006-10-11 15:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight up and tell him you dont like him talking about his ex-girlfriends. too bad if he doesnt respect your thoughts and feelings because if he's going out with you then he needs to keep his mouth shut about his ex-girlfriends. but don't do the same in return and talk about your ex-boyfriends
2006-10-11 15:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by ! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He does it because he knows it gets under your skin. Next time bring up an ex boyfriend of yours
2006-10-11 15:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋