my dad ha dsix kids and doesent pay chiled support. and makes no effort to see me. i dont think he still loves me what should i do im 12 and this hurts me more than ever!!!
2006-10-11 08:30:50 · 10 answers · asked by Rhiannon. Stay[[+]] 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry, but he doesn't love his kids if he's not paying child support. No father who loves and cares for his children wouldn't have their well being foremost in his mind at all times. I'm sorry it hurts, just accept the fact that your father is probably a real jerk. Hopefully you can find a teacher or uncle or someone who can be a father figure to you. My mom did a cross stitch hanging for my dad once, it says "any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy." Talk to your mom about this, and how it's affecting you. Hopefully she's able to help you through this. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-11 08:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the harsh reality of it. My dad was like this too. So from experience, here's my answer. Sit down, not angry, and write a letter to him about your feelings. Either send it to him or call him and read it over the phone. I would suggest reading it over the phone cause he needs to hear your hurt. Then if he feels terrible, which may not happen at all ever, he may respond to it like a father. Just because you have kid's doesn't make you a parent. A dog can have puppies and neglect them all and so do people. Sad but real. If your dad decides not to have anything to do with you after that it's his loss but at least you have some closure. Closure is when nothing is left undone or open ended. But you need to be prepared that's it's not you at all that is the problem, it's him. He may one day, when very old and sick, come to you and want to mend things before he dies. A rock is always a rock and the grass is always the grass. Your dad is just what he is. He may not ever change and that is sad for everyone involved but don't knock yourself out trying if it's a lost cause. It's ok though girl, I didn't out bad either. It hurts but it's his loss. Missing out on a great person.
2006-10-11 16:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Baby girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find time, talk to him alone, maybe he is the traditional dad who only knows how to bring the bread home, and dunno how to express his love.
My dad was like that before, only when I got older after having my own kids then I realised that communication is very crucial in a relationship.
I am sure he'll change once you open up to him. I regretted not doing that earlier and now I can't anymore as he has passed away 2 years ago...dun wait till too late !
2006-10-12 04:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel that way. Lots of people have kids, with no desire to be a real parent. It takes a real man to be a father. Hopefully, you have another loving figure in you life to teach you right from wrong and help you along the way. Just remember those feelings you have, and use them as fuel to succeed!
2006-10-11 15:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First matter of business - talk to him. Lay out your feelings like a gift on his doorstep and leave it at that. He may not know what he is doing to hurt you, telling him is the only way to let him know how you feel. When he is ready, he will take care of business and tell you how he feels. I wish you luck sweetie!
2006-10-11 15:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents care for their children is a natuioral desire, god create us with this desire, so your trend to be close to him, how to be part of his life, don't tell him what you fell but try to share his intersts,
beleive me don't give up , i have no father and i could feel what fathers mean in one's life, you still have the opportunity so do't give up
2006-10-11 16:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by shrek7187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the same thing happend to me.....My dad din't talk to me for 14 years....and he just started talking to me on my 15 Birthday......He just called and said he wanted to start talking to us.....I sat him down and told him how I felt about him not wanting to talk to us in that time period....he understood what I was talking about......I told him how much it broke my heart when he stoped....
He listend to everything I had to say.....
If you try the same thing with your dad.....and he loves you, he will listen to you......
If he doen't listen......Don't talk to him
He'll come to his sences.....
He's gunna need ya'll in life!
2006-10-11 16:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell him about ur feelings.
2006-10-11 15:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of your self
2006-10-11 15:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by aobatkaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL
2006-10-11 15:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋