I have everything good going for myself, my children are very well taken care of, I 'm in the process of buying my first home and I have a good job, not to brag but I'm a brickhouse. Men are always trying to talk to me and take me out but I'm afraid that the 4 kid thing will scare them off. I never thought in a million years I'd be faced with this problem, I always wanted a successful marriage and a big family, never divorce. I never imagined myself with no other man than my soon to be ex-husband, is it over for me.... the dating scene?
2006-10-11 08:21:39 · 19 answers · asked by J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dating when you have 4 mouths to be feed can be more difficult than when you dont, but dont give up. There is always a way if you want something badly enough. Most men are weary of a woman with 4 kids, especially a single mother. Try finding single fathers, or men in a similar situation to yours to bridge the gap. Finding a common bond between two singles is often times the most important step to building a new relationship. Good Luck!
2006-10-11 08:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by man_hands542 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a divorced mum with four kids is not easy to find true love again coz the next guy must be able to accept your four kids and the kids must be able to accept the guy too. it will not be an easy task to fulfill.
Furthermore after your failure in this marriage you may developed some phobia in relationship and that could also one of the factors that affect your future relationship too.
Nevertheless, you have to put down your failure in your marriage before you start a new relationship otherwise the relationship will not work out well for you.
2006-10-12 22:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my thing im 18 and u might not want advice from me but it's always good to take advice from someone younger than u. First seek God and pray. or pray to whoever u belive in. Im a Christian and God will help u in the time of need. Im not saying it's gonna happen today but it will take time. Read ur Bible everyday and DONT GO LOOKING FOR A MAN!! Let him come to you! If you'r patient enough he will be a good one. So no ur love life is not over and yes you should go on dates and tell them everything about even about ur 4 kids.
2006-10-11 15:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by pimpin2007392000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm there is hope out there for you. My aunt has been single for a long time, but recently she has gotten married. The only difference is that she didn't have any children. However if you are honest that you have children and that they are important to you and that they are well behaved then you will not have trouble. Don't give up hope! Just give time for your children to understand what is going on between mom and dad and when you do start dating again be honest with your children too. good luck
2006-10-11 15:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by bandfreak_06_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mention the children on the first few dates, but don't introduce the guy to the kids untill after you've been dating for a while. lots of my friends and family are single moms, and that's how they handle having children. if a guy is scared off by the kids, then he isn't the guy for you, because you are a mother, so the man you find next should want to be like a second father to your children. they have to understand that it's a package deal, you and your kids.
2006-10-11 15:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by answer away 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about true love....Your kids will be a turnoff to most guys... but you can definately get laid/a boyfriend... if that helps any. Marriage is a possibility to... but maybe you should not rush it... You are 26 divorced with 4 kids... Sounds like you jumped into alot really fast. Take it slow. ( But get married before the big 3-0. )
2006-10-11 15:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 lady you are young geees did you ever really think about that. Yeah I tend to do that to specially when you are successful earler in life. Its hard but some times you have sit down and think gees I have done oh so much good for myself and I am only ___ age (fill in the blank). Some people dont even date until they are your age just remeber that. You will find someone it just takes time. Dont worry about it get over your divorce and worry about your kids and raising them love will come trust me have fun
2006-10-11 15:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not over for you at all. I know men that have remarried with kids on both parts. And some that are dating women with children. Don't let "the 4 kids thing" discourage you.
2006-10-11 15:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful_yet_spoiled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can find true love again.. i think you need to heal fully from the divorce.
I suggest that you read the Book, Mars and Venus, Starting OVer by Dr John Gray.
Good luck!
2006-10-12 00:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will find you when you are ready. The right man will love you and see that the children are a part of you.
By the way, my brother married a mother of four. It was a beautiful courtship and ceremony. They are happily married now.
2006-10-11 15:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by RJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋