Do single men avoid dating single mothers?

Answer 1

It is an age thing usually. Younger guys are not mature enough to be fathers, and whether you want them to be or not, it kind of goes with the territory. Again insecure, young men think love and everything needs to be perfect. And typically, raising someone elses kid isn't perfect.
You will have a harder time dating, but at the same time you will be able to weed out the insecure ones, that would probably cause you more trouble even if you were not a mom.

Answer 2

Some do, some don't. It depends on both the guy and the gal.

I have several male friends who have dated and/or married single mothers and I have some male friends who do not date single mothers. Likewise, I know single mothers who have no problems finding dates, and others who can never seem to find one.

Not a lot of help I know, I guess my point is that there are a lot of factors involved in two people wanting to date each other. It is likely harder for single mothers to date, but I don't think it is the kiss of death.

Answer 3

I had a bf who told me she fell in love with a single mom but gave up on her cause she had the kid. I thought he was very selfish but after being married to a father of 2 I can say at least that I can see his point... Not all parents are the same, but many can be very boring to be around... I guess it is up to the man or woman to show that they can still be fun to be around and that they interested in life beyond their kid(s) etc. I dont belive in prejudice, everyone is entitled (or should be entitled) to have their chances.

But I tell you in advance it is hard to make plans and place the person on 1rst place in your life while you know you will always come 2nd (or 3rd, etc) for them.
I told my ex that it would be much better for him himself and his kids if he was to date a parent too. Parents are more mature to handle other parents.
Also as an outsider you will have 'obligations' but no 'rights' when it comes to the kids. No matter what you do for the kids, it never shows up, and if you say a word, you are wrong. This can be very annoying.

Answer 4

In my opinion they should. If they are casually dating. Why?
- because a single mother doesn't have the time to spend with someone - the child will always come first.
- because kids can become attached to people fast and then when they break up it hurts the kids
- because who wants to deal with a potentially psycho ex?
- because if she becoms pregnant again for what ever reason the guy is screwed - he will be paying for 18 years because she WILL have the baby
- guys can be on the hook for child support if the child "bonds" with them and they break up.

so... yeah... single guys should date single girls until they are ready to "settle down" then... its up to them... if they want an instant family then sure.... otherwise... no.

sorry.... seen this all happen to too many friends!

Answer 5

Some men like to date single mothers. Look for men who like children. Men who like children are going to like good mothers. If you are a good mother, you should have no problem finding a boyfriend.

Answer 6

I don't know, I only know why I didn't date single (divorced) men with kids. I wanted my own man and my own family and I didn't want to recylce the dregs of a broken marriage and family. I didn't want his time, attention and finances diverted to people he really should have been living with. Also, I wondered: if a wife and children weren't enough to keep the marriage together the first time, what are my chances the second time if he's already proven to have failed at it? I didn't want the drama, the kids "visiting" their dad rather than living with him and I personally didn't want to be a stepmother.
I don't know why men get such trash for not wanting to pick up where another man left off.

Answer 7

I'm single And I don't avoid them I would love to find a single mom to date

Answer 8

Absolutely yes!
I'm a single man and under most circumstances I wouldn't touch a single mother with a ten-foot cattle prod.
Why would any man think he couldn't do better than hook-up with a woman to spend time and money raising another man's child?

Also, as a male friend of mine said, no man with such a woman will ever be number one in her life - the child always comes first. Such a man is nothing more than a luxury wanted only for his wallet, the sense of security he gives her, and sex (in no particular order).

Single mothers also reek of loose morals. The only time this SOMETIMES doesn't apply is when the mother is a divorcee i.e. her child isn't a *******.

Used goods is how I see single mothers.

Answer 9

The man usually makes the first move. Even if she’s interested in you, the most she’s likely to do is to stand near you or make eye contact a couple times to encourage you to approach her. Read here https://tr.im/RuS5U

Once you see her, don’t hesitate. 10 minutes from now she might not be there or another guy might have beaten you to the punch. Plus, women can tell when you’re working up the courage to approach. Shyness might be endearing in movies and romance novels, but it doesn’t work in the real world. Approach right away, even if you don’t know what you’re going to say

Answer 10

Not outright. But, I am much more hesitant to get involved with a single mother. I want to know how she is as a parent and how her relationship is with her children. If all is good, then I am fine; if not good, then I don't any part of that drama.