i have a girlfriend and when she does things that would get me feeling really bad i scold her or sarcastically pinpoint to her . After that she says to me that i had hurt her. Then i apologise and explain her mistake. BUt she keeps on repeating the same thing again and never changes. Does that mean she is not hurt and take my problems seriously and just pretending to get affected?
2006-10-11 08:05:22 · 35 answers · asked by metallixan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your communication on both ends is unhealthy. Do either of you really know what the other is thinking??? Tip.. do not scold or point out mistakes... there are better ways to communicate.
2006-10-11 08:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a girl says she's hurt, it generally means she's hurt.
Maybe you both need to take a deep breath, step back and really look at your relationship. What are the things she does that bother you? Is there a better way of letting her know, rather than scolding and being sarcastic? Sarcasm and scolding generally won't solve the problem, it makes it worse. If there are things that are bothering you, then you should take the time to sit down with her and explain how you feel. Whenever there's a problem, instead of blaming each other and staying angry, the best thing to do is to calm down and work it out rationally. There's always a solution, but you have to work together to get there. Relationships are hard work, but if you care about each other, you can make things work. There will always be little things that will sometimes bother you. You both need to remember that neither of you are perfect, and you're going to disagree at times. What you need to learn to do is to agree to disagree, forgive each other, and move past it.
2006-10-11 08:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by writer_girl20 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she probably IS hurt. If not you are still going about it the wrong way. Here is some advice and it should serve you well in all your future relationships:
YOU ARE ALWAYS WRONG!
It doesn't matter what the argument is about just apologise, it will make life a lot easier. By the way, anyone who says they don't agree is either a woman who won't want to admit it or a man that isn't good in long-term relationship.
2006-10-11 08:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by porta_custos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already have enough answers... but I think they left something out.
Whether she is hurt or not, there is only one way to defuse the situation, and make her realize her mistakes...
The next time she does something wrong, sit her down, and talk rationally explaining how she has hurt YOU. If she is at all sane, she will have no choice but to listen to you and understand what she's been doing. You must remember to keep yourself calm and cool and understanding, and to let her talk if she wants to say something. I hope everything works out for ya!
SaRaH
2006-10-11 08:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by silvr_chyk_serah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really if she keeps doing the same thing and keep saying she is hurt for the same thing then she just wants you to be her suck up so what you do is do what she is doing to you and tell her you is hurt and you cant keep feeling all her desires so do that or leave
2006-10-11 08:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by jaszy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is hurt, but the thing is she doesn't realize her mistake when she is repeating that. That happened to me and my husband. Only after very serious arguments i started analyzing my acting and realized my mistake, but i was hurt a lot.
May be you need to visit a therapist together
2006-10-11 08:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's not taking u seriously...move to the next step..threaten her azz...tough luv works man. she's not trying to correct it if she keeps doing it. She's hurt but not enough to stop doing it....or maybe she doesn't realize she's doing it..but after you explain to her she should keep that in mind considering that thats ur chick and she shouldn't wanna hurt you again. step it up, drop ur nuts. thank u. come again.
2006-10-11 08:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by NVR UNDRESTM8 KARMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you say to a girl you have said the wrong thing just act like u care and just be counting the time until u makeout again
2006-10-11 08:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is hurt - emotionally - that you would scold her.
She isn't admiting she did anything wrong. And most likely doesn't think she did and isn't about to change.
remember you can't change anyone but yourself.
if she wants to change she will.. just tell your expectations and the consequences if she doesn't meet them. if that involves leaveing or ending it then do it!
2006-10-11 08:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look for signs like crying , change of attude , composure @ the sort . She probobly has another man . Sorry .
2006-10-11 08:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋