My cousin and I have not been hanging out lately since she moved in with her boyfriend. For the past month we've been hangin out. I talked to her boyfriend to make him feel that he fit in the family. Well, my parents left to Mexico about three weeks ago, and since then my cousin's boyfriend started to call me, and visit me to my house. I didn't think that there was nothing wrong with that because we were just friends. Until one day my cousin called him, and he lied to my cousin where he was it was right then that I realized that it was not right. He also confessed to me that he has been having naughty dreams with me while he was sleeping next to my cousin! I seeked help immediately, I told her mom in confidence, and she told me that I should just stop talking to him...So I was going to tell him to stop calling me, and visiting me. When he called yesterday I was going to tell him, but he told me that her mom told her everything, so she left him and now I'm getting blamed for it.
2006-10-11 08:04:20 · 5 answers · asked by melivaga2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had a similar situation, where my ex was visiting my cousin and my sister talking to them about our relationship. Well one day I saw his car at my cousin's house and stopped. There she was in her bathrobe. He was at the kitchen table. Later he denied that he was making the moves on her. She confirmed it, but it was very distressing. Later she said she had asked him if I knew he stopped by. She said he said yes. My question was she was my "blood", why didn't she tell me. It seriously damaged our relationship, I have not spoken to her in months. He is out of the picture. You should never have let him in or accepted any calls. There was really no need to try to be friendly with her man. Regardless, that never turns out well.
2006-10-11 09:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bean55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just feels played the fool. Hopefully she'll get over it. If you did nothing wrong, give her a little time to breath then go see her. Talk to her. Don't let it go too long. Make her understand that he was the one pursuing you...and you went to someone the minute you felt uncomfortable about it.
It's probably the secret part of it that's bothering her more than anything. If she had known everytime he called or stopped by, she wouldn't feel so out of the loop about it.
Hang in there. Not your fault. Trying to be nice and playing the diplomat in a three way relationship always sucks. :) Good luck honey.
2006-10-11 08:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by daisylane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the only person to blame. next time try to record the calls when he calls u that could be used as proof of him trying to get with u when u dont want him..
2006-10-11 08:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't talk to her mom or him..u should talk to her directly, it's you cousin she deserves to know what's going on especially with her boyfriend and with you. He sounds like scum anyways so it's good that she broke up with him...let her know how you feel and don't let a stupid boy ruin your relationship with her.
2006-10-11 08:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by streetspirit20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you have no feelings for him and she cant falt you for
they depart and she should relize that it is ambigous
to be blamed
p.s i hope she relize what she did was wrong and you forgive her for her mistake because blood thicker then water
2006-10-11 08:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋