her biological father has not and is not in her life.
2006-10-11 07:57:21 · 15 answers · asked by DAWN M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Actually that sounds great, but you need to be married first. She needs to learn marriage is mom and dad, not some ex-lover. I would say if they are close and love each other, go for it. Make sure he is someone you want to marry though, or it will only confuse her, remember she is 4. Make sure he shares the discipline when you get married and when she starts calling him daddy. This could really end up being a happy ending for all of you, if you do it the right way. Lots of people have great step parents. Good luck.
2006-10-11 08:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by wedgybutt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an about to be 3 year old who has never known her biological father. He took off when I was pregnant. She has always called the guy I have been with since I was pregnant with her "daddy" because he is her daddy. Her real father was a sperm donor.
If your daughter has only known the guy you've been with as daddy then I see no problem with her calling him daddy. What did she call him before?
2006-10-11 08:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by october g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married or just living with the guy. Most guys that are long term and have not married will run the first time the kid says daddie. After 4 years, you should be close enough to ask the guy how he feels about being called Daddy and if he wants the permanent, long term commitment that it will entail. If he says no, you should move on as you are a non refundable package deal if you have kids - and apparently he doesn't want that if he says no he would not be comfortable with it.
2006-10-11 08:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her call him daddy. He has been the only male father figure in her life. I suggest that she does call him dad. Tell her that it is ok and that daddy would like it. I bet he would be more than happy to be called daddy. sounds like a great situation for a youngster.
2006-10-11 08:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend are comfotable with it, are planning on a long term commitment and he is willing to maintain the role even if the relationship fails, then I say go for it. However, if he feels that his responsibility of being her "daddy" on an emotional level would end if your relationship ends, than I would suggest waiting. Or you could use another name (a favortie nickname perhaps) as a title for him.
2006-10-11 08:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every kid needs a father in their life and if you are sure that this man is going to stay around and always be in both of your lives then go for it;
2006-10-11 08:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that its only natural for her to want to do that, if he has been their since she was a baby. And also if he is the "father" role. As long as it is fine with you and him, then their shouldnt be any problem.
2006-10-11 08:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by LaAlicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves and look at him like a father, then let her. Just make sure that he is okay with it.
2006-10-11 08:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you finding this unacceptable? She is the only "daddy" like character she knows. you really can't blame her.
2006-10-11 08:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is cool with it and is a father figure to her go for it just wouldn't do it if your not planning longer term things with him
2006-10-11 08:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋