My fellow and I are discussing marriage. I have expressed that it cannot be soon. Is it unusual to discuss this so early in a relationship?
2006-10-11 07:49:39 · 19 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, you're still in the "everything's perfect with fireworks" mode. It's not unusual. I wouldn't discuss it seriously until you've been together at least a year.
2006-10-11 07:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Discussing marriage as a concept and if marriage is something you both want in the future is ok, but discussing marriages as in you 2 getting married soon is absurd. Date (real date, not internet chats) for at least a year before makigng any real plans.
2006-10-11 07:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't possibly know everything you need to know about the other person to make an informed decision. If for some reason you feel like you have to get engaged now, wait at least a year before the wedding takes place. You may think you know him, but people are on their best behavior the first several months.
2006-10-11 07:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Annette J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well two things one if you wait you get to really know him better which is good. It took my husband 6 years to propose. Two is that you could know someone your whole life than marry them and they completely change so it is a gamble. I say follow your instinct on this one maybe wait a little bit. It is not unusual to discuss this early. However you both have to make sure your relationship is based on love and friendship not obsession or lust.
2006-10-11 07:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Smellymelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I've known people who have gone out on one date and gotten married. I've known people who have dated for 10 years and never got married.
Discussing marriage and getting married are two different things. Take your time, there's no hurry.
Good luck.
2006-10-11 07:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The heart doesn't lie, but think with your head and look at the big picture. Even try living together, what are some of the things you love about him? What are some of the things you can't stand? Marriage is a HUGE step don't play with it.
2006-10-11 07:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Diva E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to get excited about a new relationship and imagine what it would be like...but if you've only actually dated him for a month, I would say it's a little early. Take the time to really get to know him.
2006-10-11 07:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I knew each other as friends for a little over a year. When we started dating each other (exclusively) it took us a grand total of 3 weeks to figure out we wanted to get married, so we got married about 6 months later. That was over 18 years ago (yes, we're still married). When it's right, it's right. But...if you don't want to rush it, that doesn't mean it's not right, you have every right to be cautious. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-11 07:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally i think that is tooo too early to be talking about marriage, i think u shud get to know one another better, i know u may feel like u know the person with in a couple months but beleive me it's jus the start, u got so much to learn about one another. u got plenty of time for marriage, but don't rush into it. marriage is a huge commitment. so jus put it to the side for a bit.
2006-10-11 07:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it is way to early But then again people who barely know one another get married all the time
2006-10-11 08:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by treez1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋