my ex-boyfriend.... and i.....?

Question

what would you guys do if you REALLY liked this girl and you guys went out but she kept breaking up with you but you kept running back to her because you liked her alot. but one day you try to get back with her but she goes out with this other guy that you know. you'd be mad right? but now she realizes that your the one she truely likes and asks for another chance. how would you deal with this? and because you liked her so much don't you think maybe there can be another chance? what would she have to say and do for you in order for you to give it another thought? what do you think will change your mind?.....and please guys, don't say sex. please help me and give your honest opinion and advice because i really need it.

Answer 1

sorry kiddo i'm not into soaps

Answer 2

First of all I'm a female; from what I have read, she isn't really sure what she is looking for right now. In the beginning you said, you really liked her and she kept breaking up with you, and you would go running back to her. First of all this is a test; to see if she can control you. By doing that you give NO value to yourself, and placing ALL the value in her. You also become boring and predictable... this is something you don't want to happen. If you continue you are most definitely setting yourself up to be dumped again. As soon as the next cuter or more challenging guy comes along you Will be dumped...again. You need to become more of a challenge, give her something to work for. If you don't think your worth at least a small chase then she won't either.

Answer 3

do you just really like him? can you sacrifice your most selfish need for him? what is he worth to you - a week, a month, a year of selflessness? the hole you're in pretty deep and he may or may not see your true intent since it's been come-and-go before. So this time, if you're 300% sure that "he's the one", then go monk on him, give up something he knows you 'can't live without' to prove it to him... leave sex out of it until it's amicalbe and no doubts lingering about the situation.

On the flip side, be prepared for 'no' as he may not be ready to risk another break-up. But, if you really really like him, then don't see other guys while he has the time to think about it. Make sure he can see how serious you are and that it's not just another game.

Answer 4

I'd say you just have to sit down with him, look him dead in the eyes, and then say, "You're the only one for me. It took me a while, but I truly believe that it's you that I want to be with. If you give me another chance you won't regret it."

Something along those lines should work, just speak from the heart.

You have to let him know that you care. Another trick, start doing things as if you're dating again. Make your body language reflect what you want. Like, run up to him when you see him and jump in his arms for a hug. Also, lean on him when you're hanging out or watching a movie. Let him know that you enjoy him around and want to start things back up through your body language.

Answer 5

quick answer........ dont its already the beginings of a long and torrid afair and it wont work out the second time because you will always think about the first time around so you want a honest opinion i say no dont go back as there are other great women out there and it seems like that you are a young man so go and fish the world and youll get a beautiful fish thats better than the fish you have now.

Answer 6

I'm not a guy, but I'd say that leopards don't change their spots overnight, and I'd be very wary of anyone who treated me badly in the past. Most people I've known once they treat me poorly, tend to do so over the course of the relationship. My husband says "screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on me." It's so true. If you've treated this boy not so nice in the past, dumped him repeatedly and then went out with a friend of his for spite, he's a real schmuck to give you another chance. Just my .02 worth however.

Answer 7

Maybe if time passed and she proved herself to be someone that you could trust, someone that was genuine, and genuinely sorry for having made the break....I would consider getting back together. But otherwise, she may view the guy as a 'patsy' that will tolerate any behavior, and doesn't respect himself. You sound heartbroken over this and I'm truly sorry for that. It may be best to pursue other options.

Answer 8

Boy does she have it good. She can see you when she wants and break up with you to try someone else out then if that doesnt work come back to you until someone else comes along. She has no reason to stay with you because you will always be there, it is called being a doormat.

Answer 9

move on. i dont really beleive in flashing a second chance. i never reconcile my breakups but always in good terms with my ex's (but one). i usually be a friend and kept on saying no. i guess thats what most guys do. we move on and you should too. love is just a feeling and theres definitely mister/miss perfect out there - i doubt it but lets assume. get over it and move on. nothing last forever especially the good ones. take it easy and good luck.

Answer 10

Well. i would say, I wouldn't take anyone back if they lefy me for some one else. Because, if they said they loved you, they wouldn't leave you for some one else, you can't love someone then leave them for some one else for no reason. He just loved you for what you gave him, then this other girl came along and was sexy and wouldn't give him what he wanted, so he is trying to go back to some one who will give something to him. I love my gf and will never leave her so anyone else because i dont want anyone else, i never think about what its like to be with another girl becausewe give each other what we both want. no one can give you advice, she follow what you think, i probably didnt help any, but thanks for the points, and i hope everything goes well...

Answer 11

If you kept breaking his heart over and over, maybe you need a little heartbreak to see how it feels. What you did is just plain mean. Only time will heal those wounds.