Dear Everyone,
I have been online dating “talking” to this man for the past 7 weeks. We have spoken about anything and everything. The age difference is that he is 37 and I am 30. I did feel we connected because we have similar backgrounds. We have decided that we will meet very soon, but, things have become abit weird. First, he has unhidden his profile on the dating site where we both got in contact (why did he do that for?), I will be honest – that he did sound somewhat like a “playboy” and felt as if he is just gaming around, but then I thought to myself, that he is a grown adult and why would he do something to this nature (we aint kids), and I did question his intentions going forward, he responded in a good manner. BUT! The weirdness just begun – he doesn’t return phone calls, or messages or emails. I feel like I am the only one getting in contact with him more then he is, I feel as if he has just gotten bored and try out some other people? Or maybe he enjoys playing with others minds? I found him being a nice person, but decided that I will not contact him till he gives me a call or something. I just need some courtesy from him, and I am sure I am not asking too much. If this was something that he wanted for an S/T and running away coz we gotta be meeting, I just wish he comes out with the truth with it. I don’t want to sound mean or blunt with him, coz he has been bruised bad by his past. Im just giving him the benefit of the doubt. I truly do like him and enjoy speaking with him, but if he’s gonna be running away – I need to know……Please everyone help me, and tell me if I am just imagining things? Taking things not in perspective? Or am just being too judgmental…..
2006-10-11 07:45:58 · 15 answers · asked by Fairytale_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One thing to point out, we both have children of our own - he has 4 kids and I have only one child........what can be explaining his behavior
2006-10-11 08:28:25 · update #1
Guys that have bruised pasts tend to give themselves a 'player' pass. It is like they need to redeem themself for letting their emotions get bruised. Divorced guys in their late 30's tend to go through the mid life crisis and want to be in the 'game' again. He is probably a good guy, but he is looking for something he can't find right now.
I would red flag this guy and let him come to you. Don't rule him out, but realize he is playing the field a little and is still lost about what he wants.
2006-10-11 07:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man doesn't have the coutesy to return your calls, or respond to your email messages then you have every right to feel the way you do. I would personally leave him right where he is and move on. If he has issues in his past he doesn't need to use that as an excuse, and if he really isn't ready to meet with you he should just say so instead of acting as if you don't exist. Can you possibly see yourself with this type of man that is doing these small things now???? If he was really, really serious about things he would be doing everything possible to show you that he's interested, and that's including returning your calls, and answering your emails. You should be upfront and just be honest about how you feel with this. You deserve to know what's going on, and it's not about hurting his feelings because if they get hurt that's on him. The one person that you should be thinking about and truly worrying about is YOU. The worst thing that a person can do is waste their time and another person's time as well.
2006-10-11 08:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant be bored of you already seeing as you havent even met him yet. It sounds like hes hiding something from you and doesnt want anything to happen with yous, now that things are getting close like you two wanting to meet now hes backing out. Give him one more email saying that this is the final one you are writitng telling him that you really enjoyed talking to him and would still like to contiue as well as meet one day, but for whatever reason you dont feel the same could you please contact me with a email telling me that you dont or that you do feel the same. Than leave it at that, if he contacts you, find out what happend and if hes just running away, if he doesnt contact you than you will have to leave it, just look at it as your heart getting saved from being broken badly.
2006-10-11 07:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a very nice and considerate person. Your reaction is very normal. I mean, you did give him the benefit of the doubt. The least expected would be not to contact him until he contacted you back. If he doesn't, then you are probably right. Maybe he is afraid getting his feet wet again, sort of speak..Wish you luck and the blessing of a great relationship.
2006-10-11 07:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are really tripping. First you don't know what to think because you don't know him. That is why you don't meet people on-line. Second, if he liked you he would be talking to you. He is just not that in to you. Leave him alone and move on. Maybe he feels like you are stalking him. You have to give a man his space. Why worry so much about a man you have never met.
2006-10-11 07:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by ameerahteal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well beware of on-line dating are what ever you want to call it people are not always going to be truth full in the first place . he pro-bally got scared when it came to meeting because he is pro-bally married are living with somebody . you might just need to leave it alone and count yourself lucky .
2006-10-11 07:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating is tricky and risky. If you have any doubts at all, then don't go through with meeting him, it may be a waste of your time. good luck!
2006-10-11 07:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is playin' you and when you decided to meet he got scared and ran!! I would email him one last time and tell him the ball was in his court now. If you don't hear back from him then.......GOOD RIDDANCE.
2006-10-11 07:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by donna h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ehh... online dating is up to you. I dont think I could trust someone ive never met before. But just wait for him to respond. If he doesnt, then dump him.
2006-10-11 07:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋