My daughter is 14 months old and recently started screaming her head off when i take her out of her highchair and set her on the floor. If i pick her up she is perfectly fine, but when i take her out of her chair it is because i am going to clean it and i need her to understand that she can't be held all of the time. Should i just let her cry in hopes that she will learn that her cries are not going to get her everything or shoud i really give in to her and comfort her?
2006-10-11 07:44:09 · 14 answers · asked by nataliesmom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Tell her what is going to happen BEFORE you do it to help prepare her. Maybe involve her in cleaning up the chair if you can.
2006-10-11 07:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't stop holding her soon, you're going to be holding a 40 pound 6 year old some day. Put her down, and when she cries give her a little hug and tell her that she is a big girl and big girls don't need to be held by mommy all the time. I had the same problem with my daughter when she was 18 months old. What finally cured her was that I got pregnant and as I got bigger I was able to hold her less and less. She understands now (age 2 and 3 months) that being picked up doesn't solve her problems and she cries a lot less, even when she hurts herself.
2006-10-11 07:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 14 months, I would say try both. Hold her to give her comfort while you explain what you are doing as you hold her. Explain to her that you have to clean the highchair as you put her down and ask her to be your helper and try making seem like a fun job that is only for big girls and mommies. Oh yeah and pray you do not go deaf! Good Luck!
P.S. 16 year experience...
2006-10-11 07:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's best to just leave them alone. Still pay attention to her and keep her near to you so she doesn't feel seperation anxiety or anything.
By comforting her when she is screaming, you are essentially rewarding her for a bad behaviour, and this is something that must be stopped. Otherwise you're going to have one spoiled little brat when she gets older, and let me tell you..she'll be a lot harder to deal with then because the bad behaviour has already been reinforced.
2006-10-11 17:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Maul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like your child is throwing a fit and that is a desicon that is made once they have made it let them get it out after a minute or two the child will calm down then would be the appropriate time for comfort but that also doesnt mean you have to pick her up try a favorite toy or singing her a little song
2006-10-11 07:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's old enough to understand that screaming gets what she wants. Try to distract her when you put her down, a favorite toy or perhaps a kids show on PBS, but if she insists on screaming anyway, you're going to have to ignore it while you get done what you need to. Then tell her it's play time or cuddle time or whatever you do with her after you've cleaned up. Eventually it will stop, it just seems to take forever when you have to listen to it yourself.
2006-10-11 07:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her start to cry when you put her down, but give her a little kiss when you put her down as if to say you've got to pull through adversity on your own. Then after about 30-45 seconds which will seem like an eternity to her, comfort her tell her you love her blah blah blah.
2006-10-11 10:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by ANDREW G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her scream, she has to understand that she can't be held all the time. You might want to invest in some ear plugs while you go through this painful separation process, but she'll eventually get the idea!
2006-10-11 07:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Humoring and encouraging while going to your parents house will help the situation. She will understand you do not quarrel with her and she was quite acting and so were you, loosing up a little will make a better parent out of you and what she wants is more attention, not care. Yes, I was paying attention. B...
2006-10-11 07:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my neice who just turned 5 was a screamer she screamed about everything we took her in endless times to er at 3 am thinking something was wrong my brother sister in law spent money on test after test the kid is just a ascreamer dr said nothing you can do she willout grow it...thank god she finally did...know she got case of the whines ..aarghhhhhhhhh
2006-10-11 07:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋