Homecoming is going to be in 3 weeks and i do not have a date to go. i want to have a relationship with a girl but i just lose my thoughts when i am around them. i want to know what to do to build my confidence up sp i can ask a girl to homecoming or ask to talk to them even.
2006-10-11 07:37:52 · 11 answers · asked by beaverman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u poor thing the only thing that can help u is u helping ur own self if u trully like a girl u will finde a way to do it if u want email her or massege her untill u feel that u can stand up and talk to her
2006-10-11 07:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by olahh! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to warn you now, this is going to be harsh...
GROW SOME BALLS! There is not a single woman in this world who will want anything to do with someone who has zero confidence. I'm not just some asshole talking out of the side of my mouth. I used to be the same way. That's why I struck out alot, but I still tried to talk to them. Don't write a note, or a love letter. Don't just send cutsey emails. Find someone you don't think you have a chance in the world with and ask her to the dance. If she is polite, yet denies you, then you can do some recon and find out if any of her friends are available. Don't give up after one strikeout. Keep trying, and keep asking about other girls. Why? Because they all talk to each other. Just GROW A SET and get your *** out there.
2006-10-11 14:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by jp_pablo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women / girls like a guy more if he is confidence, there is no reason to be scared, every guy has gone through this, the biggest fear people have is being turned down, the only advise i can give you is to just walk up to her and ask her, if she would like to go for a walk after school sit down for a pop, or coffee, etc, the worst thing that she could say, is no, and if she says yes, good, you can ask her later that night if she would go to the homecoming, but there are lots of people to ask.
2006-10-11 14:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by firstknight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your shyness get the best of you you'll keep losing out on the girls you have interest in.what evergirl you have your eye on try to find out first if they are seeing someone to save you from feeling like a big lugz,introduce yourself and ask her if she did'nt have any plans that weekend would she consider on going to homecoming with you and go from there.the more you open up the easier it will be for you .
good luck at homecoming weekend
2006-10-11 14:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to build up confidence is to suck it up and start a conversation with the people who make u feel shy. i was shy in highschool too. but i promise u that if u put aside ur insecurity and push urself through the humiliation u might be able to build up a friendship or possibly more with a girl.
2006-10-11 14:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by jh21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son, you need to be secure with who you are. Shyness is either a fear of rejection or lack of confidence. Realize that you can't choose what people think of you, all you can choose is what you think of yourself. Be happy with who you are regardless of your past or what things others might not like. It is a decision to be happy. Once you are secure with your life and situation you will easily be able to talk to girls because you won't fear their reaction.
Keep your chin up!
2006-10-11 14:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've dated A LOT of people. Over 100.
But my record is 1000+ shot down
100+ success.
It's life buddy. Just ask her.
2006-10-11 14:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will never get any whewre if you dont try to find out .everytime you walk up to someone just think to yourself that your important and anyone would be lucky to have you and then when your done just ask tthem out
2006-10-11 14:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by laqueeta l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easyest way to talk to someone is to ask them a question anouther words "play stupid" ask then what time it is, what the HW was ect...anything and start a converstion.... good luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 14:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Me, Myself and I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what i do?? i write a short note if im too shy to talk to that person. Notes do wonders!
2006-10-11 14:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Harlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋