THREE ADULT men living in a 2-bedroom condo. My ex-father-in-law bought a futon because in a couple of year he wants my girls to be able to spend the night over there. (My girls are 5 and 7- blonde, blue eyed beautiful girls). My ex-and his brother are BOTH alcoholics, have NO LICENSES and only have jobs because their DADDY brings them to work or gets them up for work and they ride their BICYCLES to work. I AM 100% AGAINST MY GIRLS SLEEPING OVER THERE FOR TWO REASONS, ONE ALCOHOLISM AND TWO, their are THREE ADULT MEN WHO LIVE THERE REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE RELATED OR NOT. DO YOU AGREE WITH ME??
2006-10-11 07:36:33 · 9 answers · asked by Tammy86 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
No bedroom of their own, the courts wont allow it. Although I agree with you 100% judges arent so swayed, you will need proof of the alcohol situation, and even with their being 3 men in the house, 1 is dad, 1 is grampa, and an uncle you may need some strong reasons behind it. I do know for a fact if the kids dont have a "BEDROOM", with a door of their own, that is setup as their own CPSE will not allow overnight visits. My ex was required upon home inspection to provide a private bedroom for our son that was properly arranged for him, with a bed and other essentials for him. (Mind you this was already in place, my ex is a great dad, we just had a really picky judge and our son was just barely two and I was not really happy about him being away from me overnight, who made sure that child proofing ie outlet covers, door locks, gates, cupboard locks etc were all in place)
Speaking to a lawyer is probably your best way to get the answers you need, every case is soo different that they know what the guidelines are.
2006-10-14 17:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that is not a healthy environment for two little girls. I would go to the judge who made the custody arrangements and see if you can't get him/her to insist that the girls should not sleep over with them.
Alcoholism is a sufficiently serious disease that I would not trust the men not to "forget about the incest taboo," if you know what I mean. Indeed, one of them might get drunk enough to forget he is related to them! And who knows what their friends and drinking buddies are like?
No, I wouldn't want those little girls to spend the night with them.
2006-10-11 07:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is something that each and every physique human beings ought to be taught to do. maybe by way of fact the father is familiar with that he would be in there for see you later, maybe he could prefer to tell his childrens how sorry he's for not being in contact of their lives and doing stupid issues as a replace. i think of that it is as much as the youngsters to go with in the event that they like to bypass to him or be in touch with him. Dont make it sound such as you hate the father on the grounds which you're coaching your toddlers hatred which isn't good. tell your toddlers that they ought to be reliable and don't permit any negativity deliver them down. The step father ought to attempt and be somewhat extra expertise.
2016-11-27 22:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100%, you can't undo a terrible event but you can try to prevent one, which it sounds like you are trying to do. If your girls grandpa wants to see them there's nothing wrong with him coming over to your house or meeting you guys TOGETHER at a park.
Sleepovers are stupid anyway, in my opinion, kids need to be in their own beds. Way to go Mom, you protect those little ones. So many people would just be glad to get a "night off" you should be proud of yourself.
2006-10-11 07:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by JennieLouie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, but you may need to go through the courts to prevent your ex from having the girls over night. Good luck!
2006-10-13 15:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right as a parent not to allow your children to be in an unfit environment! If you fear that they will be sexually abused then don't ever allow them to stay there without your supervision! NEVER put your girls in that place with them unless you feel it is safe to do so!
2006-10-11 16:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Scrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% I agree! Nice job looking out for the welfare of your girls instead of trying to get a night to yourself. Most parents I know are too selfish to see dangers be for they happen. You can't undo something if, god forbid it should happen. PLEASE don't subject your girls to staying with 3 grown men. Go to court if you have to.
2006-10-11 09:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY agree with you. I wouldnt let my girls sleep over their. I dont even know if i would let them be their unsupervised.
2006-10-11 07:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by LaAlicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't let my kids
2006-10-11 07:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋