ehat should i do? was i just a bimbo for him to spend his time and have sex? will he ever come back to me and love me? i love him and want to marry me but he divorced his ex 2 years ago. we broke up last year. do i have chances?
2006-10-11 07:25:29 · 10 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats what he said when he left me at least, that he d be back w/ her. he might have lied though...i am so stupid....
2006-10-11 07:35:01 · update #1
I'm about to share something with you that I want you to NEVER, EVER forget. It's the reality about how most men. A man will NEVER see your "worth" just because he's having sex with you. It sucks, but that's the way men act sometimes. And guess what? You're dating a man. So let me be very clear here:
Just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn't mean that he's spent even a second of his time deciding whether or not he wants to be with her in the future. Got it? Ok, good.
Sure, it would be great if a man let you know this before he slept with you, but that's not reality most of the time. And I'm willing to bet you played a part in this. You're not entirely innocent. Were you up-front and honest about what you were looking for? Or did your true feelings sneak up on you, freak you out, and then freak him out too?
Here's the thing...The fact that a man can be CERTAIN that he
doesn't want a relationship or a commitment with one woman... and then weeks or months later turn 180 degrees and become deeply committed with another woman proves that there's something else going on here.
GIVING AWAY YOUR "SELF" TO A MAN - I've got an important question for you..., Who made this guy the final judge of your "worth" as a woman?
The answer... You did, WHY you did it. I'm going to get a bit "deep" and "spiritual" here with you, all in the name of tough love. You're seeking his APPROVAL in the worst kind of way. You're waiting and wanting HIM to show YOU that you deserve the experience of open and unrestrained love. You're counting on him to be the strong and masculine lover you've always wanted, who will break through the barriers in both of your hearts. That way you can SURRENDER to the deep kind of love that you truly desire from a man.
Unfortunately, that's not what's happening or how he FEELS with you right now. But deep down, you believe that if you can come up with enough "proof" that he should love and value you, and if you can make things "perfect" between you two, then he'll become the open and loving man you imagine him to be.
What I see here is just Lust. Lust is short-term fun; love is the long haul. Even though the two sometimes masquerade as each other, you should be able to tell the difference. The real trick is in deciding what you want, and that's up to you.
My advice: Please do not fall into this trap, I suggest that you get on with life find someone compatable who will love you for what u are and not just treat u as bimbo.
2006-10-11 19:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Understand that some people are unable to deal with the turmoil of breaking up and they look for something to blame because they cannot see beyond their own misery. She is worthy of pity. It is clear she hasnt coped and it must tear her apart to know you bring her ex so much happiness where she couldnt. She wants to see you both hurting. I doubt it is premeditated, more like instinctive behaviour. It is said unforgiveness is like taking poison and wondering why the other person doesnt get sick. You can always try compassion and understanding. Those two elements dont really allow much room for attack. I guess wherever there is broken relationships one will see the after affects of damage for a long long time.
2016-03-28 05:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really amazed at your love for this undeserving man. What a beautiful heart you have. That is still waiting for him. Even after you know that he is not truth full to you. Even after you know that he may not be faithful to you. What an unconditional love. So pure, so deep. I respect your love for him.
The tears that role down your cheeks he may not remember, but they are costly and worth far more than pearls. No one would shed tears for him as much as you do.
Oh my sweet girl, let's look at life in a little bit different perspective. What do you really expect out of your life? Is it enough that you get a man who does not love you? Is that all your purpose in life?
Weren't you made so wonderfully? Look at you, you are beautiful, brillient, talented and educated. You worth so much. Do you realize how much you really worth? But ask yourself, are you going to waste all your worth behind a worthless man.
I can see you are so down about yourself. You call yourself a bimbo, and you realize that, he treats you like that. Yet, it is hard for you to give up on him. I understand sometimes love is crazy. It has no barriers.
All my desire is that, I wish you are able to love others around you and let his love fade away. One day if he really comes back realizing your worth, i know your love for him will boom again back. But till then there are a lot of people whom you can love, you can bring a change. So many who needs your attention.
Loving some poor child, an orphan, a neighbourhood kid, some elderly man or a woman, or someone who really lacks self worth and hurting could bring life into their lives. It will add to the worth you have for yourself.
Divert your mind from thinking about an unloving lover to someone who really needs your love.
If you wish you'd "make this world a better place for you and for me and for the entire world!!!"
2006-10-11 11:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he the only man on this earth, what is so special about him, he has found a way to have a cake and eat it too.
Forget him.
Take a chance with some one without excess baggage.
2006-10-11 09:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he left you to go back to his ex, then he's not worth your love.
2006-10-11 07:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Egoli 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well...carry on.....dump him...dont stick urself to someone who doesnt care a dime for u....are u someone use and throw...dont make a mess of ur life...look for someone btr thn him he isnt worth u... u r a good woman... i knw its really difficult but u need to move on....and live life king size...genuinely am sayng dont take me wrong.. if u want we can be friends...at freetotalkwith2002@yahoo.com..tc
2006-10-11 07:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rishabh 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
REPLACE THE EX' SYNDROME WITH...CURRENT BLISS..FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER MAN...AND THIS TIME BE CHOOSY..
2006-10-12 01:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes u do
come and join us and we will heal u
2006-10-11 07:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
heh, no, you don't. it's been a year already. if he wanted to be with you, he would be.
2006-10-11 07:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
sweetheart please stop chasing after someone that has no interest in you
2006-10-11 07:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by big@tall chick25 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋