we dated for over a year in a "rollercoaster" relationship (I'd dump him for something he did, then he would cry and beg me to come back so we would always get back together). We met after he found me on an online community for college students. It was always up and down, mostly due to his temper and habit of talking a lot about other Asian girls that he knew (he has "yellow fever", and I am also Asian). Then I went on a 5month break with him and during it I told him to try moving on but he never did. He told me that he believed I was "the one", but I refused to see him during the 5 months. After the break, we got back together but the "rollercoaster" continued. then the last time I dumped him, he didn't beg anymore. So we tried being friends, but we continued to have sex and spend everyday together like before. I realized that I still loved him, but when I told him this, he said that he didn't want a relationship although he still loved me and wanted to keep seeing me. what to do?
2006-10-11 07:20:38 · 14 answers · asked by samoa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
umm youre still giving him sex and he doesnt want a relationship anymore- that is a huge neon light flashing DUMP HIM, DUMP HIM he is using you for sex
2006-10-11 07:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like the rollercoaster was giving him a headache. When you stopped the ride, and told him to get off, he did. Finally, he refuses to get back on the rollercoaster. I would say that neither of you really want the relationship to work. If you did, you wouldn't end it when the going got tough. If you want to be friends with "benefits" and have "sexual relations" with out the relationship then that may be ok. But until you can make a commitment to a relationship, just enjoy each other for what you have to bring.
2006-10-11 14:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like a truck stuck in the mud than a rollercoaster. You weren't going anywhere with him, so it's time you got out of the truck and started walking. Someone will pick you up on the way and then you'll be going somewhere. It will be hard, but do like my ex did to me. Stop all contact. Don't answer calls. Don't respond to emails. Don't even worry if he's doing ok in life. Get on with you.
2006-10-11 14:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by jp_pablo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to be a wham bam thank you maam, then move on. Find a man that is more deserving than this one is. Women shouldnt put up with nonsense or settle for less than their expectations. There are plenty great men out there who will treat you like the queen you deserve, so go get him. Good luck.
2006-10-11 14:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, tell him you don't want to be a friend with benefits , you want a relationship
if he says no, forget him you deserve better, how will you feel when he meets someone and offers her that exclusive promise when you think you have a chance because you're spending time with him
many people become a habit that's hard to break, it doesn't mean you miss them out of love
2006-10-11 14:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have taken a wrong turn.
See this River dont' go near Aintry.
Well where does it go then
Your lost boy
Yea your right were lost
If you got some liquor up here well buy some
Yea well buy some
Did you mention anything about liquor
Well its none of our business
Thats right none of darn business
Just get up in them woods and strip them pants off boy
Strip
Drop em down and them panties
What's this all about
dont worry just do it
Now squeel for me boy squeel
2006-10-11 14:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone buy the cow when they can get the mike for free. Just stop having sex with him and one of two things will happen. Ether he will come crying back or you will find out how he really feels.
2006-10-11 14:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to continue to b with him(in a relationship) then tell him how u feel. If he doesn't want then i feel you should stop having intimate moments with him & move on cos he still wishes to have fun with you but not being commited. (meaning that he can still fool around w/out being responsible to you)
2006-10-12 03:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a stupid question....seems to me that nothing changed in your relationship except that now you show him you are weak and dependent on him...If he says he still loves you, where is the problem? Are you screwing anybody else?
2006-10-11 14:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drama. take time to deal with your own un resolved issues and he should do the same. otherwise you will be writing the same thing a few months from now.
2006-10-11 14:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋