We were having a nice relationship and a minor bump made us split, I tried to have her back, she didn't want that, she asked me to not to contact her, and said she wanted to enjoy life as a single person, a thing she didn't get to do during her 20s. We are both 31. 2 months later sends an email saying "I know you hate me, but I hope your doing well. It feels strange we are not having any kind of communication at all, since you were a huge part of my life at some point, the other day I was in XXX place (a place we went once and made love) and I remembered how great those times were back then. I hope you are doing well". That's all she said, how do you read this way of interrupting the silence we were having?, I knew she started going out with other single groups of people RIGHT away after we split. I don't want to take any quick action, I DO LOVER her but I DO LOVE MYSELF TOO, I had a HAAARRD time recovering from such a sad breakup for months I suffered, best action to take?
2006-10-11 07:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't care what she deserves, bad or good, I don't want to be mean, if I can reply an email nicely to just don't feel the person rejected, I am ok for that too, so I will appreciate ideas on that aspect too. Thaaaanks!!!
2006-10-11 07:18:47 · update #1
i was down that road before and yes u r right
u dont want to be mean
i was in ur shoe and i didnt want to be mean
but being nice got me hurt again
im going to break this down to u
she left u because she thought she will find something better right away after realizing they are no one out there she decided to contact u and apologize for her mistake which u can forgive her for it right now she is regretting ur decision
she sent u this email to see if u bite the bait and write back and be like i miss u so much and i love you and in the process u the person forgot how much it hurt u that she left u in the first place
now if u still love her and want to be with her just simply respond back hey i m ok thanks for asking (thats all do not ask her how s she s doing) and let her come to u
do not go to her cuz then she will have u like a puppet on a string
if u dont want to hear from her
simply dont answer back the silent treatment is the killer
2006-10-11 07:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. Personally, I think she may regret the breakup. However, clearly you were hurt more than she during the actual breakup. It sounds like she went out, tested the water and perhaps doesn't realize how good she had it when the two of you were together. Knowing that you still love her, you have to ask yourself if you have moved on. Are you willing to let that love go, and find happiness somewhere else? If yes, then simply reply to her stating that you received her message, it was good to hear from you, but you have moved on. If you would like another chance with her, then you have to take a different approach. Send her an e-mail telling her you were respecting her wishes not to be contacted, that you also share the memories and good times that you had as a couple. Let her know that if she wanted to continue to talk (e-mail) that you look forward to hearing back from her.
Either way, you state your true feelings...and leave it in her court.
Remember that YOU DO LOVE YOURSELF! That is very important.... you deserve happiness too..and that shouldn't be dependant upon anybody elses decision but yours! Good Luck!
2006-10-11 07:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, whatever made the two of you spilt really hurt her. When she sent that first message about not contacting her she was still very angry. Now that she has calmed and really thought about what happen, she doesn't want to lose the relationship that the two of you shared. She stated that she felt strange not talking to you. I've been there. Just send her a message back updating her on your life ie; work, family, your interest. Don't mention sex. Wouldn't want her to think you just want sex from her. However, if you were severly hurt also reevaluate the relationship and if that was the only incident. Try it again. Just avoid what happend once before
2006-10-11 08:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is all approximately HER. She's not possibly troubled approximately what your feeling, what she's desirous to renowned (for her very own ego) is that when this time you nevertheless want her. don't be fooled into thinking this is something to do with you and your emotions. She could have been some months with no boyfriend, her self belief is low and so she starts off attempting to whip up some affection from an basic place. except your desirous to circulate decrease back there, i might provide her a honest yet employer dismiss.
2016-10-19 05:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like...............
Hey girl,
It was good to hear from you, its been a while. I am doing pretty good. don't be silly I don't hate you, I'm over all that. It was hard having no communication but that is the path that we chose to take. Yeah, we did have some good times at XXX didn't we. Nice to know that you still think of me from time to time.
Well, Thanks for dropping a line, feel free to write again.
your name.
Something to that effect, that way it leaves it open for interpretation and you are saying to her, oh god I miss you so much, and you are not saying what the hell are you doing writing me, after what you did. It says Its good to hear from you and that I have moved on and I'm not dwelling on the past and that maybe you two could be freinds
2006-10-11 07:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's torn between you, who she cares about, and enjoying being single. If you want her, you'll have to endure this. It could just be a phase but you could definitely get burned again. But only you can answer whether or not it's worth the risk. Just remember that all relationships require taking some risks.
2006-10-11 07:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respond to her email...
Tell her that you think of her from time to time. Tell her that although it was difficult not communicating, you needed that time to get your head on straight. Let her know that you don't hate her and look forward to kicking it with her sometime....leave it just like that! If she wants to get together she will contact you again if she doesn't it won't look like your pining away for her...Good luck!
2006-10-11 07:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by Natural_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps she is interested in rekindling what you once had?
2006-10-11 07:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋