I am single..she lives in the same house with her husband, but no sex and they sleep in different rooms..she told him she wants a divorce ,his condiitons are to have custody of their two kids. He is financially well-off and she is comfortable...We are deeply in love, but difficult staying apart..what should i do?
2006-10-11 07:17:14 · 22 answers · asked by seek_fulfill 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say that caring is sharing. you need to introduce me to this woman.
2006-10-11 07:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her husband doesn't know about you two then she should go ahead with the divorce. Most courts will give primary custody to the mother. She would have to share weekends or come up with some sort of deal. If her husband finds out about your relationship then that would hurt her case. Nonetheless, the situation that you two are living in/with is terrible. You can't really spend good quality time together plus, the sham of a realtionship can not be good for the kids. Good luck!
2006-10-11 14:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's immoral; she's a married woman. However, it she told him she wants a divorce, it doesn't matter what his conditions are. Divorce courts are more concerned with the welfare of the children and not the reason for divorce. I think your biggest problem should be that she may do this to you one day. Remember, she was deeply in love with her spouse once.
2006-10-11 14:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by ray ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should respect her husband and keep your distance until they decide if they are going to divorce or not. But, if she is willing to divorce and lose the custody of her kids for you then I think that makes her a crappy mother. How could you be so selfish? You need to let her deal with her marriage and make her own decisions. You'll only interfere and steer her from the right choices. Why do you think she doesn't want to sleep with her husband? Duh, because she is screwing you! Would you be willing to handle the fact that it was your fault for making her get a divorce and lose her kids?
2006-10-11 14:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do?? What does your heart tell you to be doing?? Tell her to move out... He can not put any condition's on a divorce and unless she is a bad mother the courts will give 50-50 no matter how well off anyone is. She needs to stand up and be a woman, and if she is in Love with you, she will pack her bags and come to stay with you!! Good luck!!
2006-10-11 14:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, believe me. I was in love with a married man, maybe I still am. Is it immoral? A lot of people would probably say yes, but you can't help who you love. The only thing you can do is ask yourself if she is worth it. If you think that your love for each other can outweigh the situation that she's in then go for it. I do think that time apart will truly test the love you all have, but its worth for you to find out if you're wasting your time or not.
2006-10-11 14:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you dont really need to ask the question of wether or not it is immoral, because it obvioiusly is. I would wait until they are no longer married, or in the process of a divorce(ie: papers are being signed). Think about the kids. You do not want to put them in a situation that could negativly effect them.
wait until she is divorced. If you are really in love with her like you say you are, then your relationship can wait.
2006-10-11 14:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Smart Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's immoral!
Your actions, and her's are devastating to both her husband and her two kids!
Do you want to be responsible for all that pain? It's nopt good for you, and you will only end up resenting and hating her in the end.
You deserve better, as do her two kids. She is a proven liar. She is lying to her husband and children. She is probably lying to you about her real relationship with her husband.
Don't you think you deserve better?
You are not the person to 'rescue her' from her unhappy marriage - only she can do it.
Smarten up, zip up and move on!
Good luck
2006-10-11 14:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by DaBoomvang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is immoral, first of all she isn't avavaible until she gets a divorce. They live in the same house, this dosn't mean they are getting a divorce. the longer she stays the better chance they will stay together, exspecially because of the kids. Give her a chioce stay or leave and she gets you.
2006-10-11 14:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jason W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from her. she made a commitment to her husband. women and men say these things ..i am living with him but we are getting or want a divorce... but the truth is they are not divorced. there is a reason for this. you are just in the way of what could work out or not. wait til it doesnt work out. dont be the scape goat. the same thing could happen to you. treat yourself and give her some space. give yourself some space. it isnt that important. dont get caught up in the fasination of being someones hero.
2006-10-11 14:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay so far away from this woman. I don't see how you can be deeply on love with someone that cannot live her own life. She may be telling you something completely different than the truth. Afterall, she is cheating on her husband, what nmakes you so sure she won't do it to you later on?
2006-10-11 14:21:27 · answer #11 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋