i have been with my bf for 3 years and we live together. for the last year he wont have sex with me. we sleep in the same bed and do all things like any other couple apart from sex. i keep asking him whats wrong but he wont tell me. i really love him and dont want to leave him. what should i do?
2006-10-11 07:10:57 · 45 answers · asked by Hatty Sue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There can be a lot of reasons for this including work, stress, scheduling, lack of romance, emotional/psychological issues etc. The easiest thing is to talk to him when he is in a good mood.
Please do yourself a favor & research this. Google, join Yahoo groups etc. A lot of times us guys are in our own battles... Sadly most relationships sexually fizzle after two years of living together.
Being polite but firm. Tell him how much he means to you & that you feel unloved etc. Ask him if it's you. Work out, exercise & join social groups. At the most, he might get sexually attracted again to you.
At the least, you will have built up a social support network group including having met many men friends. Good luck!
2006-10-11 07:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a few things that could very well be the answer or maybe a combination of them...he could be gay, he could be cheating on you, he could be sick and not want to tell you, and don't take this the wrong way, it's just an idea but, he may not want to be together anymore and doesn't want to tell you because he feels bad, I don't know. What you need to do is just flat out ask him what's wrong and to be honest? Tell him you won't get mad and/or try not to get upset but you just need to know why because it's frustrating. Just be honest with him. Tell him how you feel and ask him for the same. Honesty is the key to relationships.
2006-10-11 07:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has had a Bad Sexual Experience or maybe been abused(As a Child or an Adult)?
Or some Child-hood/ Family Related Trauma?
These things tend to affect men is that way!
Ask him directly or get him together with some he Trusts who Can lead into the question on your behalf.
2006-10-11 07:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be a number of things, maybe you gained weight, maybe you gained an attitude, that turns alot of men off. I hate to say it but he could evern be cheating. I would really make him sit down, and just ask him why, and tell him that eventually its going to lead to a break up. Because not having sex at least sometime in a 3 year relationship is not healthy.
2006-10-11 07:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a level of communication steady enough to talk about this, then you jumped into bed way before knowing the person anyway.
If he won't talk about it, then you are at a very unstable level of communication and it isn't going to work.
Need to create an atmosphere of trust where no matter what he says you don't freak out. If that doesn't work...he's no longer wanting to be in the picture but doesn't know how to get out.
2006-10-11 07:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by chupaflor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you guys were having sex up till a year ago? If this is the case sounds to me like he's probably having sex with somebody else. That would be my first and only guess. Ask him about that.
2006-10-11 07:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to bed feeling horny, ask him for sex. If he says no, say, "Darnit!" in your cutest voice. Then take off your panties, lay them aside on his arm, and start masturbating. I am not kidding. This will either a) get him horny so he does have sex with your, or b) shake him up enough to have a real conversation about what his problem is.
2006-10-11 07:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is that reluctant and won't tell you why, he is either having erectile dysfunction, or he caught some kind of STD from another girl and doesn't want you to know he cheated. This is too weird not to be something so obvious.
2006-10-11 07:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probally waiting until you guys get married. it has nothing to do with you remember that the world doesn't revolve around you. He may have a preformence problem. Your going to have to be the aggressor and take the di ck.
Three things will happen either you guys have sex.
He breaksdown and tells you his problem.
Or he slips the sh it out of you and then chops his di ck off and commits suicide by hanging himself with his penis in his mouth.
2006-10-11 07:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one to answer. It sounds like he may have a medical condition or something. Try ralking him into going to a professional and see what is going on. I hope that he is not cheating on you. I wish you the best with whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-11 07:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by soldierman69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋