it's been a while since we hung out but we still e-mailed eachother once a while but suddenly i couldn't hold it in any longer and i poured everything out to him, and he replied back saying "I think i don't have any other strong feelings for you but who knows maybe its fate we end up being together in the future" he was totally cool with it. he wasn't being cold or anything. while we were going out he liked me so much more than i did and everytime i broke up with him he would run back to me but i went out with this guy he knows. after that, we never went out again. was what i did really messed up?? do you think there can be another chance? do you guys believe in fate? please help!
2006-10-11 07:10:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes fate exist but you really did mess up. Never date an ex's friend, for every guy that is the last straw that breaks the camels back.
2006-10-11 07:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll be honest with you, yes what you did by going out with someone he knows is messed up. Since he obviously cared alot about you, he was probably crushed and hurt badly by seeing you going out with someone he knows after all you were the one that kept breaking it off with him and he kept coming back to you to be with you. Maybe he just needs some time for himself sweetie to sort out his hurt and emotions that he's feeling. Keeping in touch with him as friends is the best way to keep the door open for things between the two of you relationship wise. He probably really just need time to be able to see that you really mean it this time around that you like him and want to be with him. He's scared that you're gonna break it off with him again and hurt his feelings. He needs to know for himself that the trust is going to be there. I believe in giving people second chances, and honestly if you get a second chance dont mess it up!!!! Make sure that this is what you really want as to not hurt him again because I think if you do he probably wont talk to you anymore after that. Fate works in mysterious ways....so just dont try to rush it if its meant to be it will happen.
2006-10-11 07:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first off it is the man code not do date another guys girlfriend if they were friends or new each other well. I believe that if it is meant to be then it will happen. Maybe you just have not let him go yet. I thought it would be impossible for my ex - boyfriend and I to get back together, but here we are together again since last night.
2006-10-11 07:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey!! I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! I dated this guy for 2 years and i knew i loved him but i was always breaking up with him to talk to another guy and finally, he didnt take me back! I was so heart-broken, i wanted to just die! I later realized he wasnt worth it! If he was really in it, he would have stuck around...and so would of you!! So dont dwell on the past, move on to the future and meet someone thats going to treat you right as well as YOU treating him right! I belive theres someone out there for everyone, its just a matter of time...
2006-10-11 07:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to keep his "strings" on you...
Why are you holding on to him yourself too? If you broke up several times... why do you still talk/email?
The only reason why you still think you love your ex is because you haven't let go... it's not TRUE love. True love doesn't play these games the two of you are playing!
Let it go... quit talking to him. He just told you what he told you because he didn't want to hurt your feelings.
How about a real relationship built on trust, love, honor, and such? Quit playing games. Talk openly. Be honest.
You'll get nowhere with games. Trust me.
2006-10-11 07:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's interested in you then I would go for it and try not to mess anything up :P Seriously though, do it, the wht-ifs will kill you otherwise. If he doesn't like you like that anymore then you just have to get on with your life and maybe wait for another opportunity with him, but still keeping an open-mind for other guys. Otherwise, if nothing ever happens between you, nobody else will be interested because you will be all about someone else!
2006-10-11 07:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by yeraciba 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no future for this relationship
the two of you have tortured one another enough. chanlk it up to experience and to growing up (and being more mature)
ps there is no such thing as fate. however, people like to believe that there is some ulterior force directing events and/or people because it absolves them of responsibility, and because it give hope where there really is none.
find yourself a more mature person who will elicit similar maturity from you
2006-10-11 07:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did definitely messed up any chances you might get again with your ex-boyfriend. Fate...? you never know!
2006-10-11 07:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should let it go, give it to God, and pray about it. If its Gods will that you will be together again it will happen. Give it some time , if he really loves you he will come back to you.
2006-10-11 07:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
next time you break up with a guy don't go out with a guy he know. guys don't forget or forgive that. If it was meant to be then you would still be with him. move on
2006-10-11 07:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋