ok i have spent the last year of my life with an insane boyfriend who did drugs didnt wanna work basically was a waste of life. i broke up with him 3 times and kept going back. this time i really am not going back. its been almost 2 months since we broke up. but my question is why do i keep turning down these nice guys and thinking about him? has anyone been in a simular situation? or am i just the only idiot that keeps fallin for an assholes lies!?
2006-10-11 06:56:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its because you think you can save him or change him.
guess what? you can't. the only person who can change someone is themselves. and.. you are just starting to learn that.
i would suspect you were either abused or neglected growing up and now you are trying to make up for it. "If I could only change this then everythning would (have been) perfect"!!!!
2006-10-11 07:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 now and I'm just now starting to learn my lesson. I hope maybe this will save you from a lot of mistakes. I was 16 and in the SAME situation as you. He was hooked on drugs which made him abusive. We were on again off again. I finally left him and the next guy I started dating was a jerk. He cheated on me, embarrass me in public my calling me awful things in front of everyone, we lived together... he usually made me sleep on the floor. I had two more relationships after that which were also pretty bad. Girls are attracted to a challenge. A boy whose is harder to "tame". Nice boys make themselves too available which is why we are not as attracted to them. Believe me majority of girls have been in your situation. It's a matter of finally realizing your self worth and knowing if someone doesn't treat you like gold they don't deserve you. So walk away knowing you're too good for that sh*t! Good Luck
2006-10-11 14:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by ntlgntbtch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you turn down the nice guys, then surprise yourself,go out with a nice guy. Men are men, it's just as easy to fall for a good one as a bad one. But, you have to let the good ones in your life.Try it what you got to lose??
2006-10-11 14:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my ex and me had an unhealthy relationship we wouldnt talk for a while and then everything would go back to how it was the next time we talked its a hrad situation I was going for all the a**holes to but I have finally found someone who truly makes me happy just get rid of all the things that remind you of him take it day by day and start talking to the 'nice' guys and see what happens
2006-10-11 14:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have no self confidence.you need to be with someone that is less than you so thats why you go for these idiots. eventhough thats really not the case. you need to know you deserve better and make it happen. try being single for a while and get yourself better before you try again. it took me 3 years before i realized i was ready for the best and i found him. after being with 2 felons
2006-10-11 14:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the exact situation, except I got out of it with a kid. The loser don't even see his own son. So the best advice I could give is do not go back!! You might go back and end up getting pregnant and you do not want that for you child. So, please just take my advice and do not go back!!
2006-10-11 14:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by ImAGenius21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, think about why you would want to live with the abuse of a druggie? You need some self respect and self esteem. You don't need that loser in your life. You need someone who will respect and care for you first, not a drug..... Good luck, dear.
2006-10-11 13:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*old habits are hard to break, but you must.
ask yourself why you feel unworthy of the nice guys. if you can't figure it out, get help from a therapist so you don't keep repeating this behaviour
2006-10-11 13:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im here with u!!!!! I think idiot is wrote across my forhead. when a nice one comes around i dont like him. im trying to put my pettyness behind me and accept a nice one into my life and its going great i think im starting to like him
2006-10-11 13:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it my be my male point of view, but women prefer bad boys over nice guys
2006-10-11 14:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by Raw Dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋