He doesn't like being uxorilocal.
What should I do?
2006-10-11 06:52:38 · 25 answers · asked by Blim 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means he doesn't want to move into your house. He wants you to move into his.
2006-10-11 06:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can conform then you could stay with him. But I think anyone would agree that this would be a major deal breaker. If this isn't what you want in your life hun, find someone else. You didnt mention anything at all about how long you have been dating but seeing how it's talk of marriage Im assuming it's been a while. My only advice is dont get stuck in a relationship b/c it's 'comfortable' and it's 'what you know' b/c you will never be happy. There are sooo many guys out there doll..
Good luck
2006-10-11 06:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by AGirl2Friendly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, do not do it.
Uxorilocal marriage, also known as matrilocal marriage, is a pattern of post-nuptial residence in which the groom, following marriage, moves to the bride's home. In Native Amazonia, this residence pattern is often associated with the customary practice of brideservice, as seen among the Urarina of northeastern Peru.
In other regions of the world, such as Japan, during the Heian period, uxorilocal marriage was not a sign of high status, but rather an indication of the patriarchal authority of the woman's family, i.e. her father or grandfather, who was sufficiently powerful to demand it (Women in Asia: Restoring Women to History, by B. Ramusack & S. Sievers (Indiana University Press, 1999)).
In contemporary China, uxorilocal marriage has been encouraged by the government[citation needed] in an attempt to counter the problem of high sex ratios caused by female infanticide, sex-selective abortion and abandonment of infant girls. Because girls traditionally marry out in virilocal marriage they have been seen as 'mouths from another family' or as a waste of resources to raise.
Uxorilocal marriages was also found in pre-Islamic Arabia (before Jahilia). The women would stay with their lineage following marriage, and their husbands could visit or reside with them, but the children would trace descent through their mother's lineage.
2006-10-11 06:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by El Recio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Web definitions for Uxorilocal
Uxorilocal/Matrilocal: The tradition of after marrige, man move to the woman's home to live
2006-10-11 06:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand he has a problem of moving into your home because the guy wants to be the provider, but I dont think it should be that big of an issue and he should just deal with it and not worry about it. good luck to ya
2006-10-11 07:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by krisbohanon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to live with your family after marriage, then you and your boyfriend will need to let your family know that you intend to live only with one another after the wedding.
2006-10-11 06:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a dictionary. Good lord, I've never even seen that word before. Did he make it up?!
*laughs*
He doesn't want to follow his wife's family customs? That doesn't make much sense. You aren't married.
2006-10-11 06:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by keylime1602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't get a new Mom... Try to patch things up between them before he moves in... Oh... and get rid of the pink bedroom... He'll hate that...
2006-10-11 06:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, and find a man that is not afraid to excessively dote on you, and treat you like a princess.
2006-10-14 04:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by meucando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow nice pic......anyways i wouldnt have any problems at first while im saving and what not. but after i got a little older and more $$$ stable i would move out and drag her (you) with me. So if things dont work out with him let me know
2006-10-11 07:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by lurch44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he, you don't live in China where it's common. Now, I on the other hand don't mind at all, when can I start to bring my things :)
2006-10-11 07:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by nycrunner69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋