I posted a question a few minutes ago about my ex and I getting back together. Ever since we have started talking again, he has not returned any of my phone calls, and has not answered my texts regularly. I feel like I love him, and when we are together in person he tells me he wants to be with me and losing me would be a mistake. Then when we are apart he ignores my calls? I need to express that this makes me feel terrible and confused, but he is really hard to communicate with. How do I let him know my feelings without making him mad or sound like I am bitching?
2006-10-11 06:43:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he feels pressured aswell as you. You've both just got out of a sticky situation and maybe the reason why all this lack of communication is because he is trying to figure this out aswell. Maybe he feels over pressured with you texting and trying to phone him all the time. I think you should just give him a little space for a while and when he comes to his senses then try to come about it in a casual sort of way. Don't go on too much, just nice and slow. He needs to take it in. Good luck ~.~
2006-10-11 06:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia16125 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. If you can't communicate with him, what kind of relationship is it? If he's making you feel made half the time, he's not the right guy for you. Take a break - tell him you don't want any contact for two weeks. At the end of that time, if you find you're feeling stronger and more self-confident, you'll know you were in the wrong relationship and by then you'll find ending it easy.
2006-10-11 06:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not "bitching". You need to sit down with him, face to face, and have a mature conversation about it. That means no arguing or yelling, just talking and compromising. Maybe you could tell him you won't call as much if he will talk to you on the phone once or twice a day. Compromise is important. Remember, no yelling or arguing.
2006-10-11 06:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Brookie06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be as blunt and honest as possible. If that doesn"t work.... then a few doses of his own medicine should cure the problem!!!! Don"t return any of his calls or texts for a couple of days...when he complains, ask him how it feels to be ignored and that it will continue if he doesn"t get his act together. Too bad if he gets mad, he"ll get over it. LOL
2006-10-11 07:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you how to keep him, i'm not a guy i'm this guys wife talking, listen, dump him, just tell him this:
I just don't think this relationship is going anywhere
He'll chase you everywhere you are!! Trust me, i've been here, I kept begging my ex husband and he didn't want me, than I ignored him and he came running to my side.
Listen to me, I do know what i'm doing, it's hard to dump him but works out, you may find you didn't really like him anyway.
PLUS, you spend your whole relationship worrying about him, there is someone better for you!! I found someone that I really enjoy and it took me 20 years, but I did it!!
2006-10-11 06:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by ivan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it in a letter just like you told us. He should understand. If he does not then you two have too much of a communication problem and he should probably stay an ex
2006-10-11 06:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk. Just tell him straight up how you feel. No point in going around in life feeling miserable!
2006-10-11 06:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by super.sweep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your def. of Ignore? If he's away and talks to you twice a day, thats not ignoring. Its sad when you have to be talking every 30 mins. during the day. I mean, what can you possibly be talking that much about? anyway, If he doesn't talk to you at all when he's away, he probably is pursuing another interest, unless he told you prior to leaving he wants to be alone.
2006-10-11 06:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by jackalope_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Speak calmly and clearly. If he doesn't take you feelings as seriously as you do then perhaps he doesn't care enough about the relationship. If a man wants to be with you he will, if he doesn't, there's nothing that will keep him. Good Luck.
2006-10-11 06:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by KMAB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that once. We broke up, then he started calling me and wanted to get back together. But then he started dodging me. I came to find out he really just wanted to know if I was willing to get back together with him. It's a guy thing, they really don't want to get back together, they just want to know that you do. It's for their ego's, I believe.
2006-10-11 06:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Princess of the Realm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋