I do not get the Amish people and forgiving the shooter(he killed himself) for killing their children in cold blood and then the shooter was going to molest them but the police were fast in being outside and foiled that plan(thank god) I have 2 kids....an infant boy and a 8 yr old daughter and i know if someone shot my daughter in cold blood, I would NEVER forgive him and the person who did it should pray that they don't let him go cause I would shoot him in cold blood....If your child got shot, would you forgive the shooter?
2006-10-11 06:40:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They say forgiveness is key to healing but i could never forgive the person who killed my kid...There would be no way...They took away the most precious love of my life
2006-10-11 06:42:02 · update #1
I think they just say that because they follow thier religion so closely, but you know deep down they dont "really" forgive him.
2006-10-11 06:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is a good question. I had an experience not nearly as bad and I elected not to forgive that person but to try to forget that person. I don't think the person is entitled to forgiveness but I am entitled to set aside the anger in my mind for my own benefit. My goal was not to spend my time and energy focused on the wrong-doer.
Recently there was a famous murder trial involving a child and the relative said, "Hopefully, God will forgive him because I have no plans to do so."
I have read that people should work to develop the capacity to forgive, but I'm not sure that I will ever buy into that. If the perpetrator has changed and suffers great remorse, then I certainly would consider it.
2006-10-11 09:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Linda, you and I don't get along well on here so I am going to TRY to make 2 objective comments:
1) Your question is really miscategorized, just because you are talking about someone's child, doesn't put this question into the pregnancy and parenting category. Next time try current events, because this category is for people to ask questions about pregnancy and parenting. Forgiving or not forgiving the murderer of your child is not a parenting question, It is a question of morals, faith and belief.
2) Just because you don't believe what the Amish, or anyone for that matter, believes it seems a bit high handed for you to judge them. Most people who would/could forgive a murderer is at an awesome place in their lives with God. You don't have to understand that about them, because it is not for you to understand.
2006-10-11 07:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree I would find it hard to forgive, I actually admire them for being strong enough to forgive. They not only took up donations for the girls families but also for the shooters family. I only wished I could be that way. They are a simple people who mind their own business, and I think media should just leave these people alone. There is an Amish community in my area, they are wonderful people.
2006-10-11 06:55:04 · answer #4 · answered by wedgybutt 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think the forgiveness found in this situation is "the way" of the Amish people. I, myself, don't think that I could ever forgive anyone in that situation. But then again, if you are actually in the situation it may be different. Maybe forgiveness allows the surviving family members to move on with their lives and not dwell on the horrible trauma. Maybe it allows you to not dwell on the killing of the children but to dwell on the happiness that the children brought to everyone's lives(short as it may be)
2006-10-11 06:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you believe in GOD? do you believe in the bible? well, the amish does and so do many, many , many people the bible reads that GOD says we must forgive our tresspassers in order to be forgiven our tresspasses. I hope and pray and that nothing ever happens to your children but if GOD forbids something does and you believe in heaven then you would want to go to heaven to be with your children again don't ever hold a grudge against anyone always pray to the Lord above to help you over come your anger the bible also states "he who angers you controls you" why would you give that person the satisfaction of knowing they have control, yea i would hunt someone down myself and torture them over my children before they had a chance to go to jail the bible also states "an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth" but make sure you forgive them whole heartedly so you can see your kids again someday.....
2006-10-11 13:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't forgive you end up hating that person for the rest of your life. How much of your spiritual energy will have been wasted hating this other person who is dead anyway? This is why God wants us to forgive those who harm us, so they can not continue to do us harm.
That said I know how you feel, I don't know if I could forgive someone for something like that.
2006-10-11 07:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really hard to understand why anyone could forgive a cold blooded killer, but they have a different faith then what others are use too. They may forgive, but they have not forgotten, I think its more of a coming to terms and moving on thing.
2006-10-11 06:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow...that's a really hard question to answer without having experienced it. I think it's humanly possible to forgive someone who killed your child, but it takes strength of character that I know I definitely don't have. I admire them but I know I couldn't forgive the shooter.
2006-10-11 07:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you, but I aslo see the side that you can't hold a grudge forever. There is noone to be mad at if there is noone there. You only hurt yourself if you keep on hating. They actually invited the mom of the killer to the funeral. (thats kinda weird) but that is just there way of moving on. I have two girls, 4 and 5 and a boy on the way, and would be so pissed if someone killed my kids, but do not know what I would do or how I would even begin to handle it. It guess I can only hope it never happens to me. Or anyone else for that matter.
2006-10-11 06:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Amish faith is pascifistic and that all things are a part of God's plan. Their daughters are now with God and are at peace not suffering. By forgiving the man (who was obviously not healthy mentaly) they are accepting that plan. This dose not mean that they don't miss and love their children it just means that they believe so strongly in thier faith and that Gods plan will eventually lead to goodness. Frankly I admire their strangth of faith.
That's my persnal opinion of it.
2006-10-11 07:02:55 · answer #11 · answered by gitana_diosa 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋