I have a wonderful 13 year old son named Steven who is the joy of my life. Last night I had a homoerotic dream about him. I dreamt that I was his male dance instructor, Howard, and I was teaching him how to line dance. While I was teaching him how to dosey-doe, I kept asking him to call me "Daddy Two-Step."
The dream then segued into a scout campout. I dreamt that I was his Scout leader and was teaching him to cast his lure. I remember that I kept pressing myself into his backside as I was helping him guide his fishing pole.
I just don't know what to do. This morning as I was making his cream of wheat for his breakfast, I couldn't even look at Steven without blushing and getting heart flutters.
How and when should I tell him about these dreams? Would it be appropriate to tell him on Thursday night, which is our mom-and-me date night?
2006-10-11 06:36:54 · 29 answers · asked by LaDeen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are very disturbed person.
This is not even something to joke about.
Seriously!
2006-10-11 06:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do the poor child a favor, don't tell him about ur dreams, he won't be able to handleit
As for ur dreams, while u r dreaming ur subconscious mind takes over and ur subconscious does not know the difference b/w moral and immoral, it does not recognize relationships ,hence u had an erotic dream abt him, don't think so much of it,it happens to a lot of people, just brush it off, if u do get such a dream, when u wake up say to urself, "the dream I had last night means nothing, I am in control and I know that I have no such feelings for my son" once ur subconscious register this, it won't be a problem anymore
And pls report Tim F he is sick
2006-10-11 06:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by virgodoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to try to not be as critical as a lot of people would be, but I gotta say this VERY strongly:
YOU CAN NOT TELL HIM!!!!! Telling him would serve no purpose, and it would scar him. He would never be able to look at you the same way again. What do you think that would do for his future love life?
If you had a dream about a married co-worker, you most likely wouldn't think you were obligated to tell your collegue, because it would be wrong, and you know that. If you had a dream that you killed your son, you would never tell him "Hey, I had this dream last night where I shot you in the head." Why would you feel like you need to divulge this dream?
The popular opinion that you should be 100% open with your kids, you should be their best friend, they have the right to know, blah blah blah blah is CRAP. The fact is, you are the adult here, and he is the child. Since he's a child (and 13 years old, by the way, is confusing enough without having to add a twist to the Oedipus complex), you need to make decisions based on the fact that he has a 13-year-old mind with 13-year-old emotions, and as his parent, you are charged with the responsibility to help him grow up to be as adjusted an adult as he can be. Telling him this, without being able to act in any way on it, would just confuse him and probably repulse him.
Think about possible outcomes of you telling him:
1. You act on it, and you are an evil mother, no question about it. If you go to your 13-year-old son to tell him, hinting even a TINY bit that you wonder what would happen if, you know.... that is illegal and would be devastating to your son for the rest of his LIFE.
2. You have a gap that would NOT close between you and your son. If you have a hard time with being around him right now, and you're the adult and hopefully can understand that it's a DREAM, just think about how awkward that would be for your 13-year-old son. Once again, it would devastate him.
Now, I don't think you need to be condemned for a dream. You can't help what happens in your subconscious. It seems like the two of you are close, and that, mixed with the fact that you are probably becoming aware that he's not your baby boy anymore probably led to a dream in which you realize he's becoming a man. I don't think it means you really want to be with your son romantically or that you're sexually attracted to him.
With all that said, your only legal, appropriate, caring decision is to put the dream out of your mind. Accept that it doesn't mean you have sexual feelings for your son, and every single time you think of it, push it away. Do NOT relive it!!! Feelings CAN be repressed, and this is definately one of those feelings that should be repressed. After a while, the dream will fade and you can continue to have a healthy relationship with your son. But you have got to be consistant with not allowing those thoughts to invade your mind and fester into a juvinile crush.
While I feel confident you'll get over this completely after a while, and your healthy parent-child relationship can continue with barely a hiccup in time, if you can't get a grip on yourself enough to act like his mother instead of a 12-year-old girl with a crush, you may need to postpone "date night" with your son this week, and until you get over all this.
If you can't get over it, that doesn't mean you should tell your son. It means you should talk to a psychologist or counselor.
Please. He's a child. He's not emotionally equipped to deal with something like this. If you love him (and I know you do), spare him.
Good luck.
2006-10-11 07:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must act upon these feelings.
Sounds like you and Steven have already established a relationship with your Thursday Night date.
Why not make your dreams come true this Thursday. I suggest that you light candles, make his favorite meal, put on one of your sexy gowns and tell him to call you Howard.
Steven is a little to young for sex but you can establish a relationship with him now that will make his initiation by his mom a little less painful and tramatic if you ease him into a realtionship now.
I mean what child molester has not acted as you have and ruined a childs life.
2006-10-12 04:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that whether people want to admit it or not that a lot of people have weird or crazy dreams. I think that you should keep quiet about this because I think that it might hurt your son and he may be scared of you. If for some reason after a while you are not able to get over this then you may need to seek professional help. If you don't want to hurt you and your son's relationship then I would advise you not to say anything to him. This could hurt him emotionally and who knows what else. If you plan on acting on this please don't. That will hurt your child permanently and you may not be able to live with it for the rest of your life.
2006-10-11 06:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberley T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is disgusting. You need to place your child in the care of someone else until you can get help. This has got to be the most unhealthy thing I have ever heard. GET HELP! This is seriously disgusting. And why would you even consider telling a 13 year old that?
2006-10-11 06:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by tell it like it is 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I read everything I was going to tell you not to worry,it had some othe meaning. BUt for you to wake up and have a crush on your little boy and actually consider telling him,your freaking sadistic! You should never tell him and if your thinking of acting on these fantasies stay away from him. Get yourself some help. Maybe you were molested and you thinlk its acceptable. No more mom and me date nights. Poor kid is probably unsuspecting that his mother,ugh! You disgust the world! : (
2006-10-11 06:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spirita Explains Your Dreams
http://spirita.blogspot.com/
2006-10-14 06:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Spirita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you are crazy. He would never be able to be around you again. The dream could have been just something wierd but wanting to tell him about it is way the F%& out there. Get help now.
2006-10-11 06:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by jusme 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Does you son take dance lessons and is he in boy scout?
If so maybe this is a signs that someone is doing are thinking about doing things they shouldn't to your son.
2006-10-11 06:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ill how u goin to seek feelings 4 ur 13 year old son u should go see someone about that because if any one dreams about luvin thier son and a sex type of way needs help!!!!!!!!!!! QUICK!!!
2006-10-11 06:59:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋