I know, why wait till now. But it just never hit me she ever get married and now I'm like dying I didn't anything all this time so I want to tell her. I was thinking of being really dramatic like in the movies so when the priest goes like is there anyone who don't think this couple should be together, let them speak n...I object to this marriage! What do you think?
2006-10-11 06:28:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you really lover her like you say you do then you wouldn't want to make a big seen at the wedding. If you care for her and you think that she cares for you then you need to talk to her in private. Even though she is engaged and about to be married she my feel the same way you do she just figures that you don't feel that way so she moved on with her life and accepted the fact that you and her would never be. So you telling her how you feel might make her the happest woman that ever lived. On the other hand she may not feel the same way you do. She might really love her fiance and my want to spend the rest of her life with only him. Either way you have to tell her or you will regret it and that is the one thing you dont ever want is a regret. It is only fair for you to be honest with yourself and with her. Or you both might never know WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN! Good Luck
2006-10-11 08:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by marie 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not interrupt the proceedings. You have had plenty of time to go ahead and let her know your feelings. All you should do now is congratulate her and find someone else to dote over. You never really notice what you have until its gone- next time i suggest paying attention more.
But this is the thing though- while you may be losing a potential mate, you still have the friendship and that is very important- dont lose that!
Just going to have to add- if you even THINK about interrupting the wedding,you never know how many crazy family members who might not hesitate to take you out back and beat on you. I know personally if someone interrupts mine, no one else would have to worry about beating that person up because it will be me all the way!
2006-10-11 13:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, don't tell her. you had your chance. let her be happy with her life. why should you ruin hers just to make yours better (if you are the one who made the mistake by not telling her sooner).
although i've seen it in movies, i have never seen (or heard of) anyone speaking up and objecting to the marriage during the wedding. if you speak up during the wedding, make sure you have running shoes because i can guarantee that at least the groom (and his mates) will be on you before you even finish with your objections.
move on with your life. you had your chance. the ship has sailed without you.
2006-10-11 13:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♫ sf_ca ღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be the most selfish thing you could do.Her wedding is her day not yours.You never wanted to express your feelings for her until now..,no,you lose.If you love her like you say you do you will keep your feelings to yourself.If you cant control your feelings then come up with some lame excuse not to go.And dont even tell her before hand..,dont tell her at all.She doesnt need the emotional drama before her wedding.Let her be happy.
2006-10-11 13:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by halfbright 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you, she has chosen who will be her mate.
I think that the best thing you can do for her as her friend is to support her in her marriage with an unbiased attitude. If you can attend the wedding and refrain from shouting out "I love you!" in the middle of the wedding, then I would go and enjoy yourself and remember at all times -- THIS IS YOUR FRIENDS WEDDING ... HER DAY! It is the happiest day of her life and as her friend, you should be there to celebrate her new marriage and her new life with her new husband.
If you think that you can't do that, then I think that it is in your best interest as well as your friend's best interest if you don't attend. Any excuse for not going is better than ruining the day.
Again, remember, this day is about your friend that is getting married and her happiness and if you can't be there as her friend, you shouldn't be there at all.
2006-10-11 14:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forever hold your peace. It's probably only hit you til just now because your chance is gone (wanting what you can't have). My thinking is, it will pass. If you tell her, it will change your friendship for good. Leave it be and find some women to go out and have fun with that aren't committed.
2006-10-11 13:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by GirlUdontKnow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but i think that you should just let her go. if she is about to get married, she has enough on her mind right now. and if you say anything like that, it just might upset her or confuse her. it might be really hard for you to let go, but you know deep down that that is the right thing to do. i am about to get married, and i know i how would feel if someone from my past, or a guy friend did that to me. good luck.
2006-10-11 13:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there!
Well how are you going to storm into her wedding and stop the priest???
Are you sure she loves you too?
It is better to speak with her before the wedding, so you can say what is on your mind, and confess this, she might like you too and cancel the wedding hehe... But do it before the wedding, dont do it on the day!
2006-10-11 13:34:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself this one question..... do you really want to ruin your friends wedding by acting like a maniac? my answer woudl be no dont ruin it for her as you may lose her as your friend in the long run. you should have told her before now but it is your loss for not doing so and now you will have to bring yourself off the floor and give yourself a swift kick in the *** and move on and be glad to still have her as a friend at least.
2006-10-11 15:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by atthean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't do the drama thing. This will, at the very least, embarass the both of you. If you have any notion that your friend may feel the same way or she may not be completely happy with this groom then speak to her. Otherwise, if you really lover her, let her be happy.
2006-10-11 13:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋